Sorry, i only just seen your post
it was like I had blinders on and I was so happy to have my fiance,
I was very much the same, do you feel that your fiance is your FB (Favorite person) ?
This makes sense to me ..coz i was like this too...not neglectful but put my relationship on a pedestal.For me
i deliberately dont chose guys with children because of this exact reason. i know it will seen odd to others (if they dont do it) but for me
i do...i avoid triggers wherever possible and that works for me
it isnt your job to entertain his daughter but as a package it is "expected" as he comes as a package same as you come as a package, ofc its natural to get irritated if you feel like you do more of the work with his daughter than he does.
i would talk it out with him and see if he can help more, i know you have had some talks about it but communication is the best way (IMO
As you know, my irritation is "mother in laws
But i am learning to "share" i think im redeeming myself ...and learning in the process
Life lessons are hard to see sometimes thats for sure
triplemoon18 wrote:Well nobody replied to my post - just wondering if having blinders on is a typical borderline symptom - not being able to see what people are trying to make you see until you are able to see it?
For me, i idolize my man, is that "typical BPD" im not sure. but self realization nevertheless is important so its a good thing..i believe