Do you attract people with similar traits?

Echinacea wrote:

madjoe wrote: triggerhappy, making the game a lot more intersting (a hole other lvl)

Yea yeah ...i love that pwBPD attract you ...i am always intrigued by my opposite, but also irritated by them too

how do you feel about autism?
verry hard for a psychopath because there's a delayed no or minimum effect to triggers (can't really read them unless you did a lot of testing)

madjoe wrote:how do you feel about autism?

I dont know enough about Autism ...but for me i generally attract NPDs and pwADHD

Autism eh?

I'm waiting for an ASD assessment, although I'm high functioning if I do have it and have been in a relationship for a long time.

From the opposite point of view as the possibly autistic person, I probably wouldn't get triggered as much since I tend to look at those kind of things from a detached and logical viewpoint and like to examine different sides of an issue, just as a kind of thought-play. Usually I come to the conclusion that I don't really have an opinion about things.

Then there's the fact that I'm not exactly gregarious and they just wouldn't see me very much. So yes, I'd probably be very boring to them.

My partner is quite 'Aspie'.

redrob wrote:

Cybertron wrote:

jerboa wrote:No, I don't attract anyone.

Yeah I don't either, not anyone with meaning anyways.

I never said they had to have 'meaning' just similar traits?

I have found BPD to be most debihilating for me in terms of romantic relationships and I thought this was a common thread.

Jerboa, Cybertron - you must have had romantic relationships or felt atttraction to ppl? That is such a big part of BPD. the unstable relationships.

Is it only me that just finds these people over and over?

Similar traits ... well one such similar trait is meaning to me.

When I was talking about attraction, I meant no one is attracted to me. And no I've never had a romantic relationship with anyone that has BPD or any known (it seems) mental illness.

As a BPD and codependent woman, I always attract narcissists who send me into a crisis when they discard me. This has happened to me at least three times. They go on living their happy life and tell everyone I'm a crazy person. Meanwhile, I'm left in a crisis and self destructive mode.

That's why I don't want to know anything about having a relationship. At least not until I figure out what to change in myself so I attract healthy people.

Yep, I'm a magnet for Narcs and sociopaths.