Hi everyone.
I have bi-polar (type II) and have been getting support from another on-line forum for that. I recently posted about my relationship difficulties and some of the people on that forum, with BPD, stated that they felt I was displaying BPD traits. Having read the DSMV and ICD10; I have to agree.
I recently wrote down the following and took them to my assessment with a psychotherapist:
My theories on relationships:
If I am horrible to them, and they leave me, well at least they've left me/cheated on me because I was horrible as opposed to being nice. If I am nice and they leave/cheat on me then that would mean it was 'me' (but it's me anyway).
Push, push, push them away. If they stay then they love you, and if they leave, they don't.
I want you. I don't want you. Hang on, now you've gone......I want you!
I only seem to want someone if they don't want me or if they want me too much.
I am very much: go away....come back....go away...come back.
If it appears that the relationship will end, even after a minor disagreement; I think death is the only answer and want to kill myself.
I have zero friends. I have a boyfriend but, as usual, we've split up numerous time and gotten back together. This is ruining my life. I have never had a long-term relationship. I am extremely paranoid. I constantly believe my boyfriend is up to something. Constantly.
I tend to stay with people that are wrong for me. I know they are but it beats being alone. I stay in very destructive relationships. My ex was so awful and paranoid. It seems I have taken on his personality. I am more paranoid now that I have ever been.
If anyone can talk to me, relate, help me in anyway I would be extremely grateful. I would love to know that I am not alone.
I could write so much more but I fear this post is too long already. Thank you for reading. It means a lot.
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