Hello everyone! I'm new to the forum, so please bare with me...I have not yet been formally diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and I'm not trying to self-diagnose myself with it, but I experience all the classic symptoms of it. I have bipolar 1 disorder, adhd, and GAD.
I have never brought up the topic of borderline personality disorder with my doctor. Yes, I've looked up the symptoms many times..which are very vague to me...and I'm not trying to be a hypochondriac and be like OMG i have borderline personality disorder! These are symptoms that I have seriously struggled with since I was around 15 years old, and never knew what it was. I experience the typical shifts between elation, almost uncontrollable obnoxiousness..to severe depression and suicidal ideation.
But, I have questions about the other symptoms of BPD...like feelings of loving and admiring someone, to absolutely not being able to stand them or wanting to be around them, unprovoked, for no reason at all, even if I hadn't seen the person in a while. For example, a friend of mine.. there are moments throughout the day where I'm like "I love this kid so much , he is such an awesome person and I just love having him as a friend."..2 hours later I'm like "I can't stand him, he doesn't care about anybody but himself, he's such a weird person and I just don't like being around him"... I shift back and forth between feeling like that with friends. Family members as well, but it is usually not immediate family..like my mom or dad. But aunts, uncles, cousins...
I shift back and forth between loving them, thinking they're a great family and love me..to thinking they suck to have as a family and wouldn't shed one tear if I were to die. Is this normal? Do average people feel like this? I really do not feel like this is normal, because these feelings are unprovoked and they shift throughout the day/week. I feel like this is such a lengthy, boring entry that no one is actually going to read this. I really hope somebody does lol. If not, then I will re-post with a MUCH condensed version of this.
One last question...and this was actually the ONLY thing that I wanted to post about initally (until I got carried away in my life story )...I've never seen this symptom listed anywhere...but is fluctuating sexual attraction something that goes along with BPD? For example, my friend I mentioned earlier...when I think highly of him, I've also pretty sexually attracted to him. But then I will almost feel repulsed by him and not have any physical attraction to him whatsoever. Is this something that goes along with the feelings of idealization/devaluation? I am so sorry about this long post. Thank you to anyone who sat here and read this! <3