It only takes the slightest hint of a negative tone or body language. Or like you said even a neutral reaction where you expected something more for my mind to start racing with those types of thoughts. It's much more difficult to overcome than I thought it would be as well. I look at past relationships that I've basically destroyed through this pattern in myself.
Exactly that. I destroyed relationships (friendships) doing that too. But I wasn't aware. It's hard to be aware of what you're doing while you're doing it.
The sense of guilt comes later, after everything is broken....