Chant2012 wrote:
Hi there Chelsea.
Hi Chantel, thanks for the words of encouragement. It's the dissociation part that makes me feel compelled to disclose. I feel like it would improve my self respect for those around me to know that I'm not ignoring them or don't care enough to pay attention.
-- Tue Apr 15, 2014 8:12 pm --
jaus tail wrote:I haven't told my family cause they are partially responsible for it.
Also many people don't believe in pd. They think depression is just an excuse to whine, so what's the point.
It's not their fault and I've realized to share problems with people who can help me. I got tremendous help from this forum.
Jaus, I hear you. I'm sorry that your family is partially responsible for what you're currently struggling with. I'm with you on this one. In part, I feel like disclosing to my mom will help make her accountable for her mistakes.
-- Tue Apr 15, 2014 8:15 pm --
Roeligan wrote:I told my family and figured "if they give a remote $#%^ they'll google about BPD themselves". My dad asked me a thing or two about BPD (no more, literally), my mom and sister didn't ask me squat about it. Oh well, my family is toxic as hell anyway.
As for my friends, telling them just came naturally really. I don't have many friends who are close enough anyway, and 1 of them is a pwBPD herself and one is suspected to be an NPD.
What I did learn is that I'm better off not going around telling people I just met about how I have BPD. The diagnosis apparently means more to some people than it meant to me, some will immediately start viewing you differently.
Roeligan, my concern in letting my friends and family do their own research is the amount of stigma attached to a diagnosis like BPD. I want to direct them to impartial and reassuring information about my disorders, and not scare them with all of the extreme content there is out there. I want to actively help shape their understanding of what I'm going through. But, of course, this is all fuelled by a fear of abandonment which clouds my judgment as to whether or not it's actually healthy to be doing all of the work for them.