littlearcher wrote:i haven't seen the criteria for the dsm V, however in the last one, you only needed 5 of the 9 criteria to be diagnosed with bpd...any combination.
and i wouldn't say that what you experience is the opposite as it's possible that you are pushing people away once they get close...because you are afraid of being attached and having something to then lose.
can you see how that would be a different manifestation of the same thing?
i definitely have had more short term relationships than long ones and when i feel insecure through growing too close, tend to cause a lot of conflict and lash out. i don't know if this would be true now as i haven't had a relationship in a long time.
but what you are describing totally fits fear of rejection/abandonment. you are just making a preemptive strike.
littlearcher wrote:that's not what it means....it's a concept that can be manifested in many ways.
again, i haven't seen the dsm v but, what you are describing all sounds like it could fit under borderline in the fear of abandonment/rejection scheme of things.
the incessant calling is more of a behaviour that is a result of the separation anxiety...but the separation anxiety itself can manifest in many ways.
and as you've described, you haven't let yourself attach, so you don't know how that would play out if you did.
and i do believe that fear of rejection in multiple contexts does count (again going by the dsm iv). it even includes fear of perceived rejection (which seems to be what you are describing that you struggle with).