centerpath wrote: i'm truly at a loss how to divide up the blame for lack of a better phrase. just visiting this stuff is so destabilizing, but the triggers lead into this pit of life hell that is my foundation. just writing this stuff has me so triggered i'm dissociating badly.
khemix wrote:You really believe your BPD is the result of upbringing? And your bipolar too? That you act impulsively, feel empty or drown in an emotional storm because your mother or father didn't validate you in your critical years? That mania and depression would not have existed had your narcissist complimented you once in a while? If so, you are a fool.
littlearcher wrote:i guess i have had to frame things differently because i've found that assigning blame/accountability etc leads me to a negative headspace and i end up getting lost in a lot of very upsetting memories.
Ophelia333 wrote:khemix wrote:You really believe your BPD is the result of upbringing? If so, you are a fool.
It's very common for those with BPD to have had invalidating, traumatic and generally downright horrific experiences as a child.
Khemix's view has merit, if presented in an invalidation tone his (her?) points stand. For one who indicates a nurturing childhood to judge the struggles involved in others is simply an error of projection we're all capable of.
-- Tue Mar 19, 2013 9:47 am --littlearcher wrote:assigning blame/accountability etc leads me to a negative headspace
This is something i'm struggling with.