khemix wrote:You really believe your BPD is the result of upbringing? And your bipolar too? That you act impulsively, feel empty or drown in an emotional storm because your mother or father didn't validate you in your critical years? That mania and depression would not have existed had your narcissist complimented you once in a while? If so, you are a fool.
It's very common for those with BPD to have had invalidating, traumatic and generally downright horrific experiences as a child. Not always of course, but a large percentange of the time. It has to develop somewhere. You don't just wake up one day and contract BPD like some sort of virus.
-- Tue Mar 19, 2013 9:47 am --
littlearcher wrote:i guess i have had to frame things differently because i've found that assigning blame/accountability etc leads me to a negative headspace and i end up getting lost in a lot of very upsetting memories.
This is something i'm struggling with. I'm still pretty angry about some of the things that have happened to me but I can't help assigning blame... I am not responsible for being sexually abused when I was younger, or for my father leaving or any of the other $#%^ things that happened. I'm aware these events have shaped who I am and influence how I react to others and my behaviour patterns in general. I take responsibility for my
actions now but I am aware there is some ingrained reason why I do the things I do.