Hi there. I don't have the answers but I can say I know exactly how you feel. I have looked older all of my life, when I was 17 my friends would send me to buy alcohol as I never got asked for i.d. I used to think it was quite cool when I was younger but not so now I am 30! I've had BDD since about 11 years old in various forms, the worry about aging really kicked in at about the age of 26 when eye bags started to develop, I soon became a sort of a social recluse due to how old I thought I looked, spent ages pondering over wrinkles and getting so upset. You try to say to yourself you are imagining things but then people actually confirm that you look older, one lady at slimming world thought I was 40. It does hit you like a ton of bricks
I think unfortunately some of us do just look older. When I was 27 someone thought I was 35, and the other week someone thought I was 35 so maybe I am just an ageless entity who will look 35 for years, even when I am 55
one can hope!
Oh my new obsession at the moment is the lines around my neck, I have taken to sleeping with a pillow under my neck !
My symptoms are helped by medication. I have been to psychotherapy which did help me for social anxiety but did not do much for BDD. I'm thinking of buying a self help book to see if I can calm my thoughts somehow.
Good luck with it all I hope you can find some relief x