Linda S wrote:You mention the focus on athletics as contributing to your bulimia. I noticed when I got interested in dance, that I became more critical of my body. I was anorexic for several years. Dance can be, unfortunately, really bad for perfectionists because one is always looking at oneself in the mirror, and the expectation is to be a thin as possible. I imagine that athletics can be similar since the focus is on the perfecting the body. Wouldn't it be nice if these really healthy aspects of life (dance and sport) could be about loving our bodies and not hating them? How does this go so wrong? Although, I believe that our issues have psychological dimensions, I also think they are social as well. Just look at the crazy messages the media is constantly sending us! We have to be really brave and intelligent to fight it.
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would be great if we could find some - how should I say - 'peace' with our determination for athleticism and dancing. However, I think that people like you and I just don't know when to quit and we go 'overboard in our efforts. Oddly-enough, I know a Greek girl who used to be a dancer but had to give it up due to being bulimic. My brother's girlfriend is an ex-dancer too and she toured the world. She's in her 30's now but I suspect that she's had problems in the past because she doesn't have many friends.
Thanks for your words, Innerchild.
Kevin