margharris wrote:If you have a habit of saying no, then you are responding to your inner need for dominance over the situation.
Well, maybe, that’s one explanation. But this is not some general truth, you have to make a lot of background assumptions to make it true.
Maybe you’re just surrounded by authoritative figures that don’t seem to understand the complexity of your situation and that demand too much. Or maybe you cannot rely on the supposed wisdom of theirs, because they never seem to bother to explain their rationale or
listen to you to gain your trust. Or who knows, maybe the other party is constantly making ridiculous suggestions and displaying passive-aggressive attitudes
towards you. So where do we go from here?
I still think it is very valuable to you to know of your tendency to not weigh the facts but reflexly say NO.
In spite of what i said above I still mostly agree with this. We shouldn’t stick to our defense-mechanisms or to the strategies that don’t work. As the saying goes, we shouldn't forget that “insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result."