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RE: Dealing with perverts online (again) by Snaga on Sat Jan 21, 2023 2:19 am
Chels91 wrote:I can say I still haven't had that problem here yet. By this point, I'm a bit surprised that I haven't considering how frequent they always tend to be. You'd think there would be more here!


There's not more here because this is what I do to them the moment I get even a whiff of 'here for the faps':
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There are venues for fappery, this ain't it. Nothing- and I do mean, nothing- pisses this admin off quicker than someone going after folks in Sexual Abuse or Sexual Addiction.

And, if one slips by my guard, all you have to do is report the PM, and then I will take a look, and I will judge for myself. And if they're found wanting, then they be gone-gone.

Re: Penciled in for more therapy by Snaga on Sat Dec 31, 2022 11:10 pm
Glad you could get the one you've already had. I don't know about other people, and I've never done therapy, but I think I would super hate having to open up to a stranger all over again, after having managed to make the plunge the first time.

Re: Considering going back to therapy by Snaga on Sun Dec 18, 2022 3:02 am
Well, you're very kind, thanks.

Re: Considering going back to therapy by Chels91 on Sat Dec 17, 2022 11:15 pm
You don’t ever have to apologize for offering your insight. I agree with everything you said. I just get pissed off at myself. Irrationally so. I get in these heated moods and just have to vent everything I’m thinking of in the moment, even if I wouldn’t actually be so harsh normally. But I’m able to recognize that I have made progress and could’ve given myself more credit that I’m due. How angry I get at myself is probably all the more reason I should go back to counseling. One thing I’m sure of is that I won’t harm myself. The idea comes to mind more in the form of me insulting myself, really. All the same, if it ever does become that serious, I have enough dignity to own up to that get myself help.

Thank you as always for your input. Really, you don’t ever need to apologize or see it as intruding. You’ve yet to provide any advice that hasn’t been of value, so thank you again for that.

Re: Considering going back to therapy by Snaga on Sat Dec 17, 2022 7:25 pm
Forgive me for intruding again, but I think yes- progress! Where were you before he died, before this came out? Sitting on a pressure cooker. Now, you're recognising the need for therapy and knowing what you need to help yourself.

Who hasn't felt better and stopped doing something? People on anti-psychotics stop having hallucinations, and make the mistake of going off their meds. I got to a place where I didn't think I needed my anti-anxiety med any longer. Now that I'm working again, I've reconsidered that. I didn't need it for a while, I think I could use it again. Well, you got to take the summer off. You had your vacation. I don't think there was anything particularly shameful in that. You got to relax, thanks to Boyfriendish. But summer vacay doesn't last forever. So, maybe it's time to go back to therapy. I don't think you should look at the past months as foolishness, or now as going back to the beginning. You were able to put things on pause a while, now you just start back up working on these things, that's all. Be a little easy on yourself....

I'm glad to hear you're not likely to self-harm. I'm obligated to point out you ought to call emergency or show up at an ER if you get overwhelming urges (I know you don't have them) but having seen my duty and done it, I'll also point out that we have a perfectly serviceable self-harm forum with a daily thread and also a crisis thread if you ever feel the need to vent about SH thoughts big or little. If you can't whinge here, well, where can you.

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