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Adult attachment styles by Ada on Thu Jan 07, 2016 11:00 pm
Attachment is a word used by psychologists to describe the relationship between children and their caretakers. When we watch the behavioral patterns that characterize this relationship, four types of attachment are seen: secure, avoidant, ambivalent, and disorganized.

Avoidant and ambivalent attachment are organized forms of insecure attachment, meaning that these children are observed to be insecure in their attachment to the mother, but have modified themselves and their interactions with their mother in an organized way. Children who are disorganized — also an insecure attachment — have not developed an organized way to respond to their caregiver[...]

http://www.essentialparenting.com/2010/ ... ttachment/

There's a weak to moderate correlation between children's styles. And those people as adults. Not well studied as yet. But the description was the most succinct I could find. And the four groupings do seem to apply to adults so anyway.

My scores from the quiz are- Secure 9, Avoidant 29, Anxious/Ambivalent 8, Disorganized 6. Just putting here for thinking through some time.

antisocial-personality/topic173848-120.html#p1808342 [Please note the pink notice at the top of the thread first. If you don't read in AsPD usually. But feel like exploring.]

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BLog 38 by OMNICELL on Wed Mar 14, 2012 6:18 am
I have to make some beats, its the only way.. do some drumming. Still thinking about buying NI Maschine



I am 50 years old. Hmmm.

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Im on a curious journey no one wants to admit or validate...

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I wish they would leave me alone. Im not accepted///

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I was laughed at today
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I loved this girl and cant let go.. I lost her....!!! She found out I was a crazy, and I couldn't support her.. The inside of me meant nothing to her... I don't get it. I never will....

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People think Im lying. This leaves me hopeless and confused.. I want to run and hide away for ever...
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Now I will start over!

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Aspie teen (boy) with constant raging by kristenevol on Mon Apr 08, 2013 4:57 pm
Hi...I'm new here. I'm the mother of a 17 year-old boy with Aspergers, Bipolar, ADHD and OCD.

He's always been challenging, but in the past month, he's destroyed a kitchen table, bookshelf, the door to my bedroom, my kitchen window, and smashed the touchscreen of his phone, all in fits of rage.

His psychiatrist has been trying to change medications to see what works best (Seroquel 200mg at bedtime, and Effexor 75mg + 37.5), but daily, something happens.

I never thought I would feel or say this, but I'm at my wit's end. I love my son, but I want my own mental health back.

I know I haven't given much to go on, but does anyone have ANY suggestions for me to help my son avoid these rages? Anything will set him off, literally. I'm just frustrated and sad.

evol

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I NEED HELP WITH MY SEX LIFE. by Mrjimmy on Sun Dec 18, 2016 8:59 pm
Hi, im new here so i apologize in advance if i get this wrong. Im 42, married, we have 4 kids together, Been married since i was 19 and wife was 17. We have a reasonably healthy sex life. About 5 years ago, i introduced the idea of a 3some, 2 men for her as she has a high sex drive, and i thought i liked the idea and could handle it all. We went through with this maybe 4 different occasions. Multiple sessions each time. The other man had much better control over his ejaculating or come back afterwards than i did, in turn spent much more time *mod edit* with my wife than i did, i was present though. This came to an end as i felt totally inadequate afterwards. Move foward to 2 years ago, once again i said why dont we put in an ad for a ###$ buddy for her, she was flooded with responses, after many chats, pictures etc, she decided to meet 1 for coffee to see if she liked him. The following day they met at our house *mod edit* to see if she could actually go through with it, which she did. Then a few days later she organized for a different man to come to out home to ###$ her, which happened, i said i wanted to kmow what happened as i was at work both of these latest encounters. *mod edit* This was an hour long sex session. Once again i feel inadequate, i need help urgently with control over cumming, or being able continue after cumming. Ive tried everything, PLEASE HELP ME. im even prepared to stick a needle in my cock if it will make me stay hard after cumming.

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My introduction (with trigger warning!) by KittyKelsey on Tue Nov 24, 2015 1:53 pm
My name is Kelsey; I am 24 years old and a girl (I am an American). I was sexually abused from the age of about 2 until I was 14 by my father. My mother died before I turned 2 and my father used me for his own needs. He abused me physically and emotionally, too. He would hit me, all the time, especially my head. Not really hard, but he would keep doing it over and over again. He would tell me, all the time, that I was no good, dirty, stupid, bad, nothing. The only time he would be nice to me, normally, was when we were doing sexual things. Then he would tell me I was a good girl and that he loved me. He would call me his girlfriend, at times and his wife at times, and tell me that I would be with him, forever. I tried telling people, three times. Once I told a teacher in the second grade and she told me that I shouldn’t say terrible things about my father like that. Then I told a guidance counselor in the fourth grade and she just said “I see” and never did anything else about it. The last time was a male teacher in the fifth grade, who insisted I show him (by doing to him) what my father did. I never told anyone else until I was 16. My father also brought in other men to abuse me, as well, when I was between 7 and 9. That all stopped when I was 14. My father was killed in a car accident and I was put into foster care.

When I was in foster care I became hypersexual, doing a lot of very inappropriate things, sexually, including having sex with my foster father. I was removed from that foster home and put in a home with a single woman as the foster parent. I got pregnant when I was 15 and gave birth at 16 and gave my baby up for adoption. I kept having sex with people, including younger and much older people. I finally told my foster mother about my father and she got me in with a therapist and a psychiatrist. I started taking control of myself and my behaviors, though I still had a lot of inappropriate sexual encounters. I started taking antidepressants. I had to go through several different ones before they found one that seems to work for me. I started college at 18, but I crashed, became self-destructive, and failed out, miserably. But I kept trying, I had the support of my friends (which wasn’t always a good thing, but overall it was) and, even more so, my foster mother who still helps me and is my “mother”.

Today I am doing pretty well for myself in a lot of ways: I am about to graduate from college (in May) and will go to graduate school, I have my own apartment, and I take care of myself. I will be going on internship in the Spring and I feel like I finally have a direction in my life. On the other hand I have become really asocial. I no longer have any close friends; they have moved away, gotten married, or I’ve pushed them away from me. I rarely go out at all and when I do I get inappropriate, again. The last time I went out was with some people from school, three weeks ago. We went to dinner and then to a bar. I ended up getting drunk and going home with a guy in his 40s that I didn’t know before meeting him at the bar. I still have flashbacks and still get depressed, though that never lasts long or gets as bad as it used to. I still see my therapist about once a month unless I am having a lot of problems (then I can see her more often).

I just wanted to introduce myself and say that even though I might not have it all together I am happy to try to help and support anyone else on here.

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