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Moving Out Woes

Permanent Linkby NicS on Tue Sep 13, 2011 2:07 am

My brother joined the army and set off about a year ago, and only visited during Christmas. I rarely talk to him now, and I am starting to miss him. But not because I love him or whatever, frankly, if we wanna talk about abusers, he was #4 or 7 on the list. Its just that he's not in his room, which has been across from me for well over 18+ years of my life.

No, the real reason for my emotional state is its slowly hitting me that soon I will have to move out. And being an employee of my mother, essentially earning $100 a month max, I'm not sure how I'm going to make it in this world when my mom finally kicks me out.

She says I'll live with her until I'm out of College. Then I'm on my own. So, at max, 7 years for a doctorate. Realistically, I have about 3 years. I know a lot can happen in between now and then, but for right now, I feel really useless. Like "I wanna kill myself" useless. I have no plans to do so, but I can't seem to find a job anywhere.

The Idaho Statesmen has a report last week that 52% or 58% of students were unemployed, while pre-recession, that number was something like 32%. So its not just me. But I, for some reason, always aspired to be better than other kids, right? And now I'm stuck in the majority. And it sucks in here, there's not enough room and get your balls un-stuck from your legs.

Someday, I hope I'm going to make it big time. Or at least get a job in the field that I'm trained in. But, for right now, its scary, and I don't know what to do. My dad says focus on work. But my alters are saying either find work or make a job/company. I'm trying to do both, but all that is fogged by the thought of having to move out in a few years. My mom's friend, Terry, lived with her mother until she died. Terry is now 63 and has been on her own since she her mom died. I don't know. My mom isn't that kind of a person, she'd want me out. And, to be honest, I kinda want to as well. But I'm not ready yet. I'm just not ready.

So, for those living on your own, please, help me out. How did you deal with moving out, being on your own, having your own place, bills, work, etc? The thought scares the crap out of me. How did you deal with it?

Thank you.

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Re: Moving Out Woes

Permanent Linkby under ice on Sat Sep 24, 2011 6:49 pm

I was 19 when I moved out and it was scary. I had never been able to imagine a future for myself outside home, although I hated living there too. In fact I had never been able to see any kind of future ahead of me, just a black tunnel. I moved out because I needed to escape from my family, although I was dependent on them; I was between a rock and a hard place.

What made it easier for me was that I started uni in another town at the time. At first I had to rent a room, and after two months I moved to a shared flat. I took a student loan to buy some furniture, and I remember hitch-hiking back from my old hometown with a suitcase full of books and some tableware :lol:. I bought a tiny kettle for boiling eggs, I still have it. I worked in a supermarket in summer.

In less than a year bf finished his army and we moved together, and so on. That way I never had to live alone, which helped me since I wasn't a loner back then :). I never missed living with my family.

I think that the whole independent life starts from little things. My boyfriend was really supportive during the whole process of me moving out from home although he was in the army for the first year. I guess that he helped me more than anyone or anything. We broke up later and lots of things have happened ever since. Now that I'm truly independent and managing my life on my own I can only say that it wasn't something that happened overnight. But I'm not scared of my life anymore. I'm sure that you can do it too!
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