For the last 8 months, I've held out hope that my ex would have sex with me again. She didn't even talk to us once. We had no communication with her (including texting, in person, calls, ANYTHING) after May 28th, 2011 (at 8:11 PM), when she sent us the text message "I dont want to have sex with you anymore. Sorry" [sic].
For 8 months, I held out hope she would contact me and say "My boyfriend is terrible, come ###$ me again". But, alas, nothing. It wasn't until about 2 weeks ago that I just texted her saying we hadn't spoken in a while and I missed her that she actually began talking to me again.
Ladies/Gentlemen, you always make the first move.
Fast forward a little, and the latest (and hopefully last) text I got from her was Saturday, January 28th, at 6:29 PM:
"Okay thanks. . Well i gWg, im high." [sic]
Step two: Realize your smarter than him/her, and he/she's been giving you constant evidence you were too blind to see.
In June of 2011, she and a friend got busted for smoking pot in a parking lot. As part of their plea bargain, they have to submit to a random drug test 1 time per month, for a year. She told me she had not taken any drug test all month, which means that they will be testing soon. Now, they don't do holidays or weekends, and pot lasts in a persons system something like 2-3 days minimum before the THC starts to break down and/or dissolve. So if she smoked pot Saturday night, and there are only 3 days left in the month, with a guarantee of drug testing on Monday or Tuesday, who will soon be ###$ legally?! MY EX!!!
Step 3: Look back, and be honest, even if it takes 3 1/2 hours.
But there were more clues. More answers left to be recovered. Having DID means that sometimes some alters hold memories others do not. Was I missing something, or was I simply being an arrogant horny bastard who wouldn't take "No" for an answer? Was my "I would not rest until I had sex with her one last time" attitude the problem, or did we already have sex again and I just wasn't aware?
What was discovered...
CONTINUED IN PART 2, TOMORROW, CAUSE I'M TIRED AND TRYING TO CUT BACK ON LENGTH.
-C.Nic