I am not saying my therapist is a poser. I don't even have a therapist. We'll get to that in a second.
Nic posted recently (http://www.psychforums.com/dissociative-identity/topic85083.html) about having a time loss issue that he wanted to address. One poster said to ask my alters what they did, or get their memories.
We have been doing this for years, but it hadn't occured to me till just now that having that option is a little bit weird.
If we are truly all people (And we ######6 are, by the way. Alters are people too), then it is odd to be able to tap into one's memories. You couldn't do that with any other person, just alters. Kinda ######6 weird, which is my point: People think DID is fake because of weird $#%^ like that. "Oh, you can access your other personalities memories, but you can't remember my birthday? No, its fine..." kind of thing. And they have a valid point (well, some of them): why can we recall other alters memories, but not remember things like being raped or how I had sex with Kelsey but Nic doesn't have one damn second of memory about the whole experience, without outside help saying "Yeah, this happened" or us finding proof? The proof always triggers a less-than-one-second flash memory that all the alters ######6 see, but guys like Nic or Zack can't remember sex?
Thats just an odd thing I have been thinking about these past few days. The other thing is how people on the forums, having no advice to give or having no insight what so ever, will always dole out the cliched "You should ask your therapist about it" line.
Let me make this real ######6 clear: Some of us cannot afford a ######6 therapist. It would be nice, sure, but we simply can't afford to do so. We also don't have time. Well, most of us. "We don't have time" usually means "I WANNA WATCH ######6 DEXTER, AND ###$ YOU FOR ASKING", but we do have college and homework and such that we do
A) Actually like doing this semester, and
B) HAVE TO ######6 DO. ITS HOMEWORK, YOU #####&.
Secondly, if you can't say something useful, shut the ###$ up! That ######6 simple! We don't even appreciate that your just trying to help anymore! If you suggest "Oh, go ask your therapist" then WHY THE ###$ AM I ON THESE ######6 FORUMS?!!!?!?!?! I come to YOU for help because
A) You have the same condition we do.
B) Because of A), we know we can talk openly and you will understand and help.
C) Its ######6 FREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE. Besides paying $40 a month for internet, and $100 (average) for power, THIS SERVICE, ######6 PsychForums, is ######6 freeeeeee.
Get it? So, if you have genuine advice to give, by all means, give it. If its just a suggestion to talk to your ######6 therapist, move the ###$ along. You can help somewhere else. Just not here.
-C.Nic
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>>NEXT TIME: Part 4 of 8, with either David, Derrick, JR2 or Brian. Probably Brian. No idea why, though.