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Why does she do this?
   Wed Sep 18, 2013 10:06 pm

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Why does she do this?

Permanent Linkby Michelleinmichigan on Wed Sep 18, 2013 10:06 pm

I have a relative with addiction issues. She came to live with us in her early 20's, and was supposed to help around the house, and go to school. Everyone thought her parents were mean, because she was as sweet as pie, just not a high achiever like her parents and siblings.

Turns out she had addiction issues, and was also a complulsive liar, and manipulator. She is also brilliant. We always tried to help her, but the porn DVD's she got in the mail were the last straw, along with her stealing, and refusing to pay the cleaning lady $400 she owed her. I saw an ugly, abusive side to her, when she got nasty with the poor cleaning lady who was asking her for the money.

It was like pulling teeth, but we got her a job at a family business, and rented a room for her. She still manages to have everyone do things for her. Never brings even a flower to family gatherings, and remains an eternal child into her 40's. Recently, My mother had to pay $500.00 for something she owed someone. That really bothers me. She has a pattern of pushing the limits, until someone gets mad at her, and then she plays the victim. Everyone feels sorry for her, including me.

She's making money, and shouldn't be in this situation. Her addiction is food and nothing else ridiculously inexpensive.

Why does she behave so irresponsively, and why does she borrow money, and refuse to pay people who try to help her. Is it self sabotage? Is she in need of attention and love from being alone? What is the best way to deal with this? Or do I need to give her a piece of my mind, because no one else will?

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