Well today we got our pics taken for the choir CD which means we will get the CDs soon - very exciting. Wehad a listen to the master last week and without sounding boastful we sound GOOD.
Feeling quite proud of myself today because I made some boundaries. The girl who has a tendancy to show up on my door phoned me as she is in another crisis and was waiting to see HTT. She later got them to speak to me and they asked if she could come and stay the night. I actually said NO and that I thought it would be better for her to see me during the day. I felt mean doing it but also empowered like I am learning to say no when it is appropriate.
Saying no has always been a problem for me, that is probably an abuse issue and it is one I need to work on in therapy but today was a good step in the right direction.
I have been asked to do a session for volunteers in the music group I attend. I was sent the questions today - they are quite hardcore. The woman in charge will ask me them in front of the new volunteers, so I need to get some idea of what I am going to say. Still if I can help then I really want to. Also got a potential gig coming up this weekend so need to think about what to sing for that.
Slept terribly last night, did not eat much yesterday then there was this program about food on in the middle of the night so I had to make a sandwich as I was suddenly hungry, then I felt guilty for eating then I could not sleep and on and on ad infinitum. I am so neurotic...
So there is a new Cracked in town - one who says NO! Hurrah!
Hope you are all OK.
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[quote="CrackedGirl"]So there is a new Cracked in town - one who says NO! Cracked[/quote]
Welcome to the neighborhood, naysayer! I, too, have difficulty saying the "n" word for fear of disappointing others...
I have to keep the bigger picture in mind when making decisions; from this perspective I am aware & conscious of a my situation & see clearly the circumstances upon which I should base my decision/answer (yes? or no?) -- disappointing others is rarely part of the equation.
Cowards die many times before their deaths.
The valiant taste of death but once.
Shakespeare, "Julius Caesar"
That is helpful fellow naysayer, tho it is a work in progress over here!
Glad to hear you managed to say no when you needed to. It has been something I have been trying to learn lately too. I like the proud feeling I get when I manage to successfully set my boundaries. Do you get that feeling too?
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I do when I manage it yes, it feels good
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