Yes, you actually can hurt a person with your thoughts. How would you feel if you were an atheist, and your significant other thought atheists were all delusional thugs? You would feel hurt, not just because they said it but because they're thinking it at all. Sure, a person can conceal their thoughts from you, making you unlikely to be affected by them, but personally, I prefer to be in relationships with people who agree that keeping secrets from your partner is wrong.

Being upset at someone's thoughts is not "thought-policing". It's only thought-policing if you try to control how the other person thinks against their will or try to make them share their thoughts against their will.

Everyone is entitled to their own thoughts, opinions, beliefs, views and feelings (unless they themselves relinquish sole property of those things; which means it's still their choice). On that same token, I am entitled to know the person I'm with and to have the choice of removing myself from a relationship with someone whose thoughts/opinions/beliefs/views/feelings I believe make them a unfit partner. There are thoughts that I believe that only a "bad person" can have. Deal with it.

Hell, you're probably reading this right now and disliking what I'm thinking. Is that the same as policing my thoughts? No. You have an opinion about my opinion. Big deal. Now if you tried to pry more thoughts out of me in a way you know I find intrusive/unacceptable, that would be thought-policing; you are only entitled to know my thoughts if I say you are. If you tried to coerce me into changing my mind, that would be thought-policing. Again; you have no authority over my thoughts unless I say you do.

There is a big difference between thought-policing and simply wanting to make an educated decision about what kind of person you're choosing to be with. There's more to a person than just their behavior; a lot can be said about their character based on what goes on in that head of theirs. Also, it's not abuse if the person permits it, likes it, and gains genuine happiness from it. That's why I prefer to be with people who agree that partners should NEVER keep thoughts (or anything) from one another. That way we can skip past the whole "abusive" and "boundary-crossing" mess and it can just be a mutually healthy and consensual decision for us.

If you think thought-policing is merely being angry at/hurt by/disapproving of someone's thoughts and/or choosing not to be with them because of the thoughts they express/don't express, then congratulations: You're one of those hypocrites who wants to be able to enter/exit relationships for whatever reason you damn well please, yet you don't want others to have that right as well.

In fact, trying to discourage me from feeling/thinking whatever I feel/think about someone else's thoughts actually does constitute as thought-policing.

I wonder what form of abuse it is to tell me that I don't have the right to exit/refuse a relationship with someone who has (by my standards) poor character.

I'll tell you all about the sex we had, but you'll never know about the love we made.

"We're born free. All of us. Free. Some don't believe it. Some try to take it away. To hell with them."

- Eren from Attack On Titan

1. I am entitled to discuss my BPD-related violent thoughts/impulses/outbursts in the BPD forum, constructively. Nobody who matters has told me otherwise. I explained multiple times why it wouldn't be appropriate or healthy for me to seek support for my BPD-related violence in the ASPD forum. Just because pwBPD aren't typically violent doesn't mean none of us are. Some of us are outwardly violent for the exact same reasons we and/or other pwBPD self-harm & throw tantrums. YES; SOME pwBPD are violent BECAUSE of our BPD. Just because my symptoms manifest abnormally doesn't mean I shouldn't talk about how they impact my life in relation to my illness.

I'll put trigger warnings on my violent posts of course; I am NOT responsible if you choose to read on & get triggered.

2. I'm DONE overreacting to every idiotic thing I read. It's time for me to focus once again on SELF-improvement instead of dwelling on & raging over others' shortcomings/misunderstandings. If something isn't helpful, then I'm just moving on.

It's sad enough when people forget, deny or overlook how fluid and subjective sexuality is. It's even sadder when this is done by those who should understand the most.

Coprophilia isn't just a fetish for some people. For some of us, it IS a SEXUALITY. A sexual orientation, just as much as heterosexuality is.

Claiming that coprophilia is merely a liking/fixation for manure is like saying homosexuality, for a male, is merely liking penises. There is so much more to it.

For those who say it never is/can't be a sexuality/sexual orientation: what a way to further misinform society on an already horribly misunderstood matter.

If anyone has any questions about coprophilia, please feel free to ask me (an actual coprophile) directly; including/especially any questions about why it is NOT JUST A FETISH/PARAPHILIA.

That was the last straw. From now on, I'm only making/reading posts in the Venting and Just For Fun forums. I no longer take this place seriously as a supportive/informative environment.