I really hate it when other people who aren`t in my situation say to me that "life is what i make it". I know that its said in a nice way but i also know that its ignorant when i have so many problems with my family.
I hate it that i can never take up my family problems with my family, you see the only thing i get when i do that is my mothers ignorance and avoidance. She is so tuned to her new family that she doesn`t even bother to think about my feelings.
Its highly provocative and depressing.
My stepfather used to play rugby, so his way is only to charge the problems.
Which in my opinion not good.
My mother should have spent more time with her other children when they were young.
Instead she spent time on painting batik with her new boyfriend(soon 2b husband).
Avoidance is clearly her!
Now they are spending time up in the mountain in a cabin they bought with his money or they spend time in another country in south where they have bought a summer house.
I have never seen the summer house.
She also spends time with her daughter (from 2 marriage) who has had a child. The other daughter(from 2 marriage) has a career as a dancer/actress, she also spends time with her.
Or her son(don`t know what he is doing now??)
She has a total of 6 children and my father had another child(a daughter) in his second marriage.
I have no contact with my father.
I think its pretty dumb that she can turn her head around for all the problems she created her self and then when she sees that its getting too much, she blames ex husband for everything.
She told me that she went into the tent with him and that he laid on top of her, saying to her that she laid there like timber after wards.
After that she got pregnant and married and then had two more children before she ran out on him.
There is a tension in my family.