GUILT-PROJECTION and fault seeking all seem to be strongly connected in my family.
I remember when my sister used to come to visit us and my mother would look so guilty and act so nice towards my sister..
she urged me to do the same from when i was 5.
She was our guest and got what she wanted when she was there. Whilst i was luckily if i got chocolate pudding once a week....? But complain? Never!
Complaining didn`t make things better it only made them worse, now "Kelvin" had another cause to complain...