In a big family there will always be O`s and L`s
I think people who are born in big families are more responsible people when it comes to having a social responsibility.
Now that i am elder i can see the impact it has made on me coming from a large family, i notice it when i am with friends and the way i interact with them.
Most people tend to care and concern about their own lives when they are being interactive and they don`t care so much for other people.
They tend to be like "me first then the others", whilst with people from a large family its different, they have been taught that the whole group of people need to be happy, so they are lingering more when it comes to who comes first and who gets served. They might look at the group and take a control over who is eldest, youngest, sickest etc..
Its a different responsibility, i am not saying that person`s coming from one child family don`t care about others.. i used to date a guy who had no siblings and he loved being around lots of people.
I noticed that he had a different way of "being" with them, he was more concerned about getting the group together so that he could have them as company.
He was good at coming with activity suggestions, but when it came to more deeper things and sharing, i felt as if he never considered that so much.
A lot of consequences regarding siblings that he never had seen.
In the end we broke up because of our differences.
I know that people get different responsibilities depending on their age & rank in the family too, if you are the youngest you get less, oldest gets more etc etc..
O`s & L`s are ok or good to have as long as they don`t become to heavy or confused like they did in my case where i had not one set of siblings but two and two of my siblings were ill because of the family situation. I also have one more half sister from my fathers second marriage who i only have meet twice. So i have a lot of eyes on me inside the family which makes a family conflict worse and more people you have to confront with, which can make it an impossible task. There is certainly no room for speculations in a big family as that will bring cackling threw the hen house.