Have you ever let a phone go unanswered?
I did that for the first time today.
A friend called me and i wasn`t awake to take it, she left a message on my answering machine and i never called her back.
I am kinda in the limbo here! At one point i really want to be her new best friend but another i don`t
Her mother is a psychologist just to make things even worse for me..
On her own i think she is a nice, which i also have said, but when she nags me for something i just cave in like an infant in foetus position and can`t move an inch.
She`s got some problems with her back and i helped her out a bit.
I still haven`t answered her called, probably not so normal....
she is 10 years younger then i am so i think that might have something to do with the problem.
We didn`t have any appointments today and she only called because of loneliness i guess.
Guess i am sick of being every bodies kleenex and problem solver!
I want to have the social life and she is social and nice BUT i have so many problems so that when she comes over and acts like her life is such a miserable pit then i get a bit provoked by that.
How on earth can i say that to her without offending her?
I already tried to say it in a nice way but she didn`t she didn`t get the hint(probably cause of age diff?).
I had a neighbour once where i lived before, he was kind and we went steady for a year.
When the relationship ended i thought it was difficult to tell him about it.
I partially moved to get away from him.
Not because he was a terrible person but because he was a nice person and i had so many problems and i didn`t want to disturb him.
I didn`t move just because of him, we also had a man peeking in the shower that we shared with the other people living there, so i needed my own bathroom.
That was the main reason for it.
We didn`t really talk about the reasons for the break up, it just sorta happened when i moved.
I haven`t spoken to him since i moved for 6 years ago.
I wish things were easy to explain but sometimes they can be hard to explain.
He accompanied me once to the hospital because i was mentally ill, he sat up with me in the hospital the whole night even if he had to go to work the next morning. He was a sweet heart to me.
He also bought me a ring i wanted as a surprise.
The problem was that i had asked him for a HIV test which he refused to take.
We argued about that. (Have taken it myself after and have no problems).
Also he went to visit his ex girlfriend and told me about it afterwards.
He could be a bit annoying in some of the attitudes he had.
He said that i couldn`t ask him for a test unless we were married.
Things like that only make me more suspicious..i told i would take it too, but no difference
So this was probably one of the reasons why i broke up with him.
I had a lot of problems at the time, and i was in and out of the hospital, not a good time to be dating someone.
I didn`t date anybody for 3 years after i broke up with him, since i had to go to a therapist and get my head straight.
I was normally the one who called him, when i stopped calling, he never called me, so our relationship just ended.
I had worked in a hospital where one of my colleagues had gotten HIV from her African boyfriend, so i was afraid. I told him that and he still didn`t take it.