I was doing some IE in DBT group last night and my friend helped me figure out why I had difficulty saying no.
I was abused and the first time I said no did not end well. I did not say it again.
Being in a missionary situation made me feel like I was not allowed to say no as I dont want to be selfish as that is a sin.
I dont want to make my Mum sad by saying no to her like she was after Dad died.
I am just noting this down so I remember - not that I think I am likely to forget tbh. But at least I know where it comes from and that means I can do some work on it.
Hope you are all well
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