I believe my wife is suffering from bipolar disorder, or something with a similar set of symptoms. We have been married > 15 years, and I have lived through several manic-like episodes, but this has been the longest and toughest. I have not given up on the relationship, but it taking a big toll on me and the kids; I know I can't stay in this situation indefinitely and remain healthy.
She exhibits most of the standard symptoms, including not sleeping, extreme irritability, rapid speech, chain smoking, non-stop activity, high aggression dealing with everyone around her, spending money like it comes out of a tap, etc. Each cycle like this, we lose more family friends; I'm not sure we have any left now. Most worrisome are persecutory delusions: she thinks people are recording phone conversations, have long-range mics and cameras pointed at our house, and tail her car when she leaves. There is also a family history of similar mental illness.
Living in this situation for so long, I question my own judgement, but this time, I have her family, the police, our lawyer (who she contacted about the surveillance), her doctor, and now the local Children's Aid society (referred by her doctor) all saying there is a serious issue here.
I have tried to convince her to see someone, and her doctor has set up two referral appointments, which she refused to attend. This, like most conversations seem like an exercise in futility. She has an answer for everything, someone else (often me) is always at fault, and delivers it in such an aggressive, "wired" way that you can't get in two words. She thinks that seeing a psychologist means months of diagnosis, followed by "knock-out" pills.
The situation is difficult for me and the kids, and I can't keep this up forever. Worse, the Children's aid society is threatening legal action to force her to get help or be removed from the household. Her attitude is "bring it on"... she almost seems to relish the idea of another battle.
Any suggestions on how I can approach this?