by HislilPrincess » Mon Jul 17, 2017 11:53 pm
I would be honest and upfront with her, bc if you start a new relationship build on lies / or hiding things about yourself, it will come to bite you in the end. Not telling her wouldn't be fair on your part, bc she needs to be making decisions based on the truth of who you are, not who you are pretending to be.
I've been there, I was that girl who made decisions and moved forward with a relationship that was based on lies , deceit and more and more deceit, it didn't end well. She won't trust you in the future if you are not upfront with her. It isn't like you killed someone, you have a disorder, I can think of much worse you could bring into the relationship. When we invest ourselves in other people, we are making decisions based on what we know to be true, if we find out what we know about this person is only half true, then this makes our past decisions invalid.
I told my current bf all about myself , yes all that bad stuff too. I thought it was important and respectful for him to know who I really am. He knows I have a disorder as well as trust Issues, it helps a lot bc they can help you understand yourself and others.
I have learned we should always tell the truth no matter how difficult it seems, and to honest we set ourselves up for the worse bc 9/10 times it really isn't as bad as we see it in our mind. Don't let your mind play tricks on you, be yourself, tell all about who you are, If she doesn't like it then nothing lost, move on. Keep in mind that not everyone will be supportive of accepting of you, may as well know it in the beginning bf investing too much into her. I wish I had had that same respect, bc investing time with people who are not who you think they are is time you could be spending with someone who is. Best of luck, due tell.