Depression after intimacy?

I have had this condition that I get depressed after intimacy/sex. It's weird...you would think I would be happy or manic! Perhaps it is sort of like coming down from an mood upswing. It's annoying to get teary and depressed when I should be feeling contented. Sometimes I alright start bawling afterwards for no real reason. I have avoided/abstained from sex for three years, probably somewhat to do with this but also just dealing with the illness in general.

Does anyone else get this?

I wonder if this is perhaps something psychological going on. I used to be like this at times when I was having se I did not really want eg putting myself in situations I deep down was not happy about when I was hypomanic and hypersexual. Since I have stopped doing this I do not get this with sex any more. It might be that there is something subconcious which is going on for you?

Cracked

The last few years of sex with my ex made me feel like sex was a job and a dissapointment after wards. I dont know if it depressed me to have sex with her or it irritaed me.
All i know it didnt make me happy afterwards

I can relate. Sometimes, even after a solo session, or with a partner, I feel beyond crushed by depression. I usually resort to self harming. I should feel happy and elated, yes? Nope. It's not even psychological. I mean, do I have psychological issues over sex? Yes, but I won't complain over my story as I am grateful that it is not worse than it was. It was nothing and I'm probably overreacting. Anyway, it's not psychological, I just feel awful and it's become something that isn't worth doing for me. It's an all over feeling of mental anguish.

O...M....G.... this just happened to me... for the 1st time ever, just a few days ago.
I have a good relationship, but it had been a couple weeks since we were intimate (I had been a little too moody).
So we had this really amazing love-making the other morning and literally as soon as I climaxed I burst into really hard, deep sobbing and I couldn't stop.
The notes in my Mood Tracker show me feeling really low for a day or two afterwards.
So weird. I don't even know what to think about that.

Two suggestions:
Talk to a therapist about it.

Work on more casual intimacy and don't feel it needs to lead to sex.
- I mean things like holding hands while you watch a sappy movie.
- Going for a walk together.
- Talking about what is on your heart when you are together.

I'm 60 and occasionally my equipment doesn't work. My partner and I accept it and just enjoy being together without interruption.

See if you can find intimacy without sex. It will all come in its own time.