bramble26 wrote:I think some people may think I'm sloppy because I don't wear make up, Sometimes I just put on gloss and pinch my cheeks for
Hepzibah Pynchon wrote:Sara- kitties
Bramble-she's a doll, like a model kitty. Does she craft too?
Asaboy wrote:I started working on confidence while I was going to CBT but gave up on it pretty quickly. Pretty much I had to make a list of things that I had trouble doing and rank them in order of difficulty. Starting with the "easiest" thing, I had to try and face each situation. I think a movie about this method would be interesting but I don't think it was a good approach for me because I had no motivation and most things involved friends which I didn't have.
I'm having motivation issues right now with continuing to work on this. It's like I'm missing part of the formula. Right now it looks like this:
Confidence + ? = ?Profit?
I'll build the confidence and then what? All my dreams will come true? This is where my slightly schizoidness interferes. Nothing matters to me, how could I possibly feel confident? The whole idea seems abstract to me.bramble26 wrote:I think some people may think I'm sloppy because I don't wear make up, Sometimes I just put on gloss and pinch my cheeks for
It's like this: wear make up and everyone will think you're beautiful and you'll be happy. But why should I care if anyone finds me beautiful?
Superman23 wrote:Great topic. I'm just starting to get back out there again after a couple of years of healing. What I decided to do is make a list of everything I don't like about myself like
credit card debt
Then slowly tackle a couple of them at a time to start improving things. Sort of like college where you have to take the required courses to get your degree. I figure eventually I'll start being happier and more confident if I'm closer to the person I think I should be. I've never been in great physical shape before so I'm really interested to see how much it helps.
Here is a thing though... do we know how to cure these things? I mean, I think some of my failures in the past are because I don't know what I am doing. For instance the bad job. I don't either know how to find a good job or I don't know how to land one. Might an avoidant need special instructions? I mean like I did the informational interviewing a few years ago but it was pointless because I think my entire attitude just screamed I didn't really want to be there.
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