Does anyone here identify as a Conflicted Avoidant type?
* conflicted avoidant - including negativistic features
The conflicted avoidant feels ambivalent towards themselves and others. They can idealize those close to them but under stress they may feel under-appreciated or misunderstood and wish to hurt others in revenge. They may be perceived as petulant or to be sulking. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Avoidant_personality
It's like combining avoidant traits with passive aggressive traits. Here's a quote from a book: "They idealize their close friends and companions, but should their sense of autonomy be threatened, they seek to undermine or humiliate them...They may attack others for failing to recognize their need for affection, but accuse those who offer nurturance of seeking to compromise their independence."
I think I could classify myself as a conflicted avoidant. I always thought I had some passive-aggressive traits, though sometimes I can be just simply aggressive - with those close to me, and family members, sadly.
I was wondering if anyone else here used things like procrastination, breaking promises, avoidance, and even full-blown silent treatment, as an aggressive measure that's nevertheless rooted in our avoidant traits? I think that's what describes me.