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Why do I let assholes bother me so much?

Postby tiredofthis » Mon Jun 22, 2009 12:41 pm

I always let the mean, petty, spiteful things the assholes in my life say get to me so much that I'm miserable for days and sometimes can't even sleep (like tonight). I mean, it doesn't bother them that they're being assholes, but I let them ruin my life just because of some careless arrogant comments. Even worse, I NEVER do anything while they're saying the stupid $#%^. I don't talk back. No smart comebacks or quick put downs. I dont even give them a dirty look. I just TAKE IT!! Its like I'm just too stunned to even react and I freeze. Its not until later when I'm alone that I think of all the things I could have said. By then its too late and all I can do is fantacize about keying their cars. Why?!? Why do I let them make me so miserable when they couldn't give a $#%^?!?! Why do I let them bother me so much?!?! I want to know how to just blow them off like the insignificant shits they are. How do you guys DEAL with mean SOBs??
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Re: Why do I let assholes bother me so much?

Postby twistermind » Mon Jun 22, 2009 1:23 pm

tiredofthis wrote:I always let the mean, petty, spiteful things the assholes in my life say get to me so much that I'm miserable for days and sometimes can't even sleep (like tonight). I mean, it doesn't bother them that they're being assholes, but I let them ruin my life just because of some careless arrogant comments. Even worse, I NEVER do anything while they're saying the stupid $#%^. I don't talk back. No smart comebacks or quick put downs. I dont even give them a dirty look. I just TAKE IT!! Its like I'm just too stunned to even react and I freeze. Its not until later when I'm alone that I think of all the things I could have said. By then its too late and all I can do is fantacize about keying their cars. Why?!? Why do I let them make me so miserable when they couldn't give a $#%^?!?! Why do I let them bother me so much?!?! I want to know how to just blow them off like the insignificant shits they are. How do you guys DEAL with mean SOBs??


I think it´s completely normal that you feel this anger. Some people act as completely assholes, mainly if they are in a group. I can´t say how would I act! That´s depend on the situation, the kind of commentary, who is the asshole, that is if I have to see him/her everyday or if this person is always in the same way with me.
If I really bother a person I just ignores him/her. If he/she express something I don´t agree with, trying to think that he/he has another way to see the reality and add my own opinion.
If it´s an insult, I try to be calm and express my disagreement and don´t put in the place as him/her.
Put me an example of a commentary you bother. :?: Perhaps is a good idea to learn something of assertiveness.
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