I have both, but I think the OCPD do a lesser degree. I absolutely cannot stand being controlled by others, and it triggers me greatly when I feel others trying to do it to me.
I also grew up with siblings who have severe OCPD. And, in a strange sense, they were controlling me because of their disorders. I had this one older brother who would get extremely angry with us younger siblings if we yawned in his presence. I'm talking about really angry. Of course, when we were little, we didn't understand why he was so odd like this, and it made me really upset because to me yawning was a normal human function. I was talking to a coworker about this recently because OCD and anxiety runs in her family of origins too. She said that there are some people with OCD that when they hear certain sounds like yawning and whistling, that it really triggers them. I was really surprised to hear this, and googled it. Apparently, it's called misophonia (sp?).
And, he was just one of my siblings with OCD issues!
This is why to this day, I find it supremely difficult to be around people with OCPD. I feel like I am walking on eggshells around them, and that they are indirectly controlling my ability to just be myself.
HopelessRomantic wrote:I think that someone once wrote here that OCPD and AvPD are twin disorders and they are compatible. I would tend to disagree. I would think that people with these disorders don't get along that well. People with AvPD do not like being controlled, at least I hate it. I like to do things my own way without any interference. Except for excessive anxiety, there is not much in common between the two.