Avoidant Personality Disorder Resource Center

This information is all very eye opening and sadly fits me very well.
Thanks for the link to that website Skog. This will save me a lot of time searching for stuff in the library.

Dragonfly.

Wow, thanks Skog. I've just started reading but it's fascinating. I see myself in the descriptions so much it sends chills up my spine.

Thanks for that info, TheLonelyStranger! I've been googling social phobia, social ineptitude, etc, and I was so relieved to find this forum! It seems that AvPD is not very well known--in my psychology textbook, there is only one paragraph on the 'avoidant' cluster of personality disorders, and a lot more information on other personality disorders.

Thank you for this. VERY useful information!

waht do I do, I have tried so many things, and many unsuccessful therapies I am so tired of living like this I can't be alone like this anymore

I am part of a spiritual group that is great and was making progress but then felt intense rejection from the guru when I exposed my deep depp pain and couldn't stop crying and have been totally self destructive ever since

How can I handle this, I feel terrible about myself all the time, and in my head, fantasizing and cannot stop, which makes me feel worse and ineffective; the fantasizing seems to make everything worse, makes me feel even more unable to function in the real world and with real people

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Anyway.....

Another comparison of AvPD vs. Social Anxiety (I've probably posted it somewhere else)

http://www.anxietyhelp.org/information/avpd_vs_sad.html

"Avoidants tend to have low self-esteem & believe that they are
unworthy of being ín successful relationships. They are also very
self-conscious, frequently lonely & see their accomplishments as
being of little or no worth (Millon & Everly)."

I think this pretty much sums it up for me personnaly. Wish the was a medication that one could take to fight agaiinst this.

blueblueblue wrote:waht do I do, I have tried so many things, and many unsuccessful therapies I am so tired of living like this I can't be alone like this anymore

I am part of a spiritual group that is great and was making progress but then felt intense rejection from the guru when I exposed my deep depp pain and couldn't stop crying and have been totally self destructive ever since

How can I handle this, I feel terrible about myself all the time, and in my head, fantasizing and cannot stop, which makes me feel worse and ineffective; the fantasizing seems to make everything worse, makes me feel even more unable to function in the real world and with real people

Sorry you're having such trouble. I completely identify with this crisis as well. The one person who has helping me, an old therapist, started bringing up these freudian labels(I hate labels)and he hurt my feelings terribly. Anyway, You're not alone!

Great post OP gives a very descriptive analysis of what AVPD is. Everyone that has it should read it. When you know about it more, I think it helps to give you the tools to solve your problems more. I have started to change my pattern of thinking through very hard conscious effort when I catch myself thinking negatively the way someone with avpd does and it has been working.