I've got the following problem. After meeting a girl on vacation and spending 10 days with her, she left and we stayed in touch til now. She has female friends and doesn't seem to have big problems to tell them that she misses them. She told me little cousin the same. However, when it comes to me she doesn't even wanna tell me that she misses me. After leaving she would text me all the time at first. Ever since she got afraid that I might end our communication she went from texting me all the time to barely texting me though. While skyping she said that she preferred texting cause she coud protect herself better from feelings this way which she later regretted saying.
So basically I have no idea what to do. Sometimes she withdraws or is very passive aggressive. I must say I'm guilty of having been some kind of a shrink trying to explain and fix things with little to no success. I know she's very afraid of letting me get close to her. She even said it might be better to end our communication before things get more serious between us. I do understand that it takes time for her to trust me but I can't be some pushover who waits forever while she is not sure about things. I'm afraid the testing phase will never be over if I don't give her an ultimatum. She is able to have normal friends but when it comes to me she's definitely trying to hold feelings back and would rather end things before opening up.
Any advice what I'm supposed to do and how I'm supposed to react? Our relationship is long distance and I feel that we're kinda stuck. I know I have to be patient and understanding but I have to have some self esteem too and can't wait for her forever. I feel like she trusts me less now than in the beginning and I never gave her any reason to do so.