how to win over avoidant girl?

Don't think the worse.
Take it easy. Go on contact with her and see what happens.
Sorry if you wrote this information before but I don't remember: how long have you been knowing each other? On-line also counts. Appart from these 10 days, how long?

twistermind wrote:Don't think the worse.
Take it easy. Go on contact with her and see what happens.
Sorry if you wrote this information before but I don't remember: how long have you been knowing each other? On-line also counts. Appart from these 10 days, how long?

I met her mid August and then 10 days later she left. To see her I would have to get a 12 hour flight but for that she would have to make up her mind.

Wow! It's a long distance to see someone who has been knowing since middle August.
But, it also two moré months to meet better to each other.