I like this point:
Focuss on solutions:
"You can't make your toxic colleagues any less crazy, so don't waste your time ruminating on their many, many faults. That will just drag you down to their level. Instead try to focus on positive and practical measures you can take to deal with them. "This makes you more effective by putting you in control, and it will reduce the amount of stress you experience when interacting with them," explains Bradberry."
I'm living something like this just now. I avoid thinking about what I don 't like about that person.
Tóxic people are like virus. They infect those extrovert a and goppsi people in an work. There is often some people who can not be infected because stayed appart. They use to be the introverts.
The moré extrovert there are in a work place, the bigger the infection is.
-- Sat Nov 01, 2014 11:20 pm --
blankslate wrote:HopelessRomantic wrote:Lucinda wrote:point #4
4. Defend your joy
"When your sense of pleasure and satisfaction are derived from the opinions of other people, you are no longer the master of your own happiness. When emotionally intelligent people feel good about something that they've done, they won't let anyone's opinions or snide remarks take that away from them," Bradberry insists.
So train yourself to take others' commentary with a grain of salt and let your own feelings about your accomplishments take the lead.
Guess we all need to cultivate more narcissistic traits and turn into regular a'ssholes rather than be perceived as ''emotionally unintelligent''....
i HATE the term emotional intelligence....Again it is a concept devised by another person; someone else's musings...other peoples opinions....
WTF does it mean...really?
I would say it is just the opposite of not being able to understand and control your emotions and those of others which doesn't have to do anything with being emotionally mature.
hey Lucinda, that sounds like healthy self-esteem to me. I do understand why you and others don't like the term for sure. I have a hard time (correction: impossible time) wrapping my head around anything in the psych field.
HR, ya that's what I thought the message of this article was. Forget about the word emotional intelligence, they could use different words and keep the message intact. I thought this thing had good points for 'sensitive ppl' with low self-esteem to be aware of. things that happen in real life.
You won't expect I read all that, no?
Haha. only if you want to improve your EQ test scores Twist
Well my level of EI was not that bad. Highly OVER the average.
I'm gonna put in practice each one of the points but there are some that are really tough.
-- Sat Nov 01, 2014 11:26 pm --
I'm recolling that I have a tóxic person in a school 8 years ago. I'm not sure if call him a tóxic or a tyranical person. The worst is that he was my boss. I didn't act with much intelligence though and he gave me lots of problems.
I don't want either to remember him.