Hi there I joined this forum because I think I may have AVPD and I was looking for a forum where I could have some contact with others who have, might have or know someone who has AVPD. I'm saying I think I have it as I'm not really wanting to diagnose myself with anything but there is enough wrong with my life for me to really feel inside myself that something is definitely up with my emotional states and how I live my life on a daily basis.
One thing I know for certain is that I do suffer from anxiety which seems to present itself as bad bouts of facial and shoulder tension or dizziness (room spinning) when stressed and anxious as opposed to panic attacks which I don't tend to experience even when very anxious.
When I was a child in school my anxiety would get so that if a teacher or another pupil started pressuring me I would begin to feel anxious and like I was being ridiculed and picked upon and eventually I'd just burst into tears in front of the class which would just make me feel ashamed of myself. Some teachers pushed me to this point not all teachers are nice people and it caused me to be rejected by my peers later on during adolescence.
I have done a little research into AVPD and I have been on social anxiety websites before I felt out of place there as many of those people despite being socially anxious had jobs, relationships, went to university etc. and I can't seem to do any of that I can't even work as all the jobs I see involve customer service roles and I'm terrified of that I just can't do that whole have a conversation thing, even an informal one without feeling embarrassed and inadequate about my end.
About an hour ago I was using this PC in a library and the guy next to me muttered under his breath "piece of $#%^" when his time ended and he got up to walk out. Took me about ten minutes to stop thinking about that and wondering if he was talking to me and telling me he thought I am a piece of $#%^.
You see my problem on the face of it I sometimes think I'm crazy but logically I know such problems are related to low self esteem. I also come from a very dysfunctional background Dad drank and bullied our family mercileesly at times and he taunted me often and called me horrible names casting aspersions on my masculinity a lot, especially I felt that as a kid but it's colured my view of myself as a man. I got rejected by my peers. All I'm saying really is I fit the profile for AVPD I don't have aspergers, panic disorder etc. etc. etc.
God can anyone help. I've been so isolated all my life always on my own. Yesterday I was out walking in the sun and on my way home I saw a guy sitting with his gf on the spot I was sat at on the beach an hour before and well that hurt I so want to be able to do things like that but I can't. It's awful I'm miserable as sin about it but I just seem to bite my lip and carry on.