I think becoming a hermit and/or living off the land is more running away from the problem than trying to solve the problem.
And, I do say "problem", because it is a problem in my view. Not so much because you don't want to socialize (I'm in the same boat on that), but the deep hatred for others is a problem.
RJMisanthrope wrote:So my question does not relate to 'how do I learn to interact with the herp-a-derps and have normal relationships' as I find both of those repulsive and boring. What I want to work on is detachment: instead of getting angered by their existence I should just be apathetic about them. What Georges Palante called 'misanthropic pessimism'', the detached air of a dilletante, that is what I want to cultivate. I want to break their influence over my emotions, because they are not worth caring about.
Quite honestly, this will come down to two things:
1) You don't worrying about others. You have your own life, and your own battles..why focus and judge others? You can't, nor should you, be able to change others. Why? Because if the "shoe was on the other foot", would you like someone else's views on morality and "how to be" being pushed on you? Sadly too many people already do this, and that's what I hate personally about society.
2) You need to be willing to stop hating people. You have some internal battle going on here that's pointed in the wrong direction - and that's outward. Your reasons for hating people make sense for not wanting to associate with some people, but doesn't make sense for the hate part. You need to turn that energy inwardly and solve your problem instead of trying to make it about others.
I know this sounds a bit harsh, and in some ways it's meant to be. These people have influence over your emotions because you let them
. You're right, they aren't likely worth being cared about by you..at least not now. Once you stop letting others have control of you, then you can maybe start caring for others (e.g. empathy)...but right now you're not there yet.
Speaking from personal experience..I'm in a similar area you are to a degree. I let one person have way too much control over my emotions. This person's problems became my problems and it really drove me to the edge of depression (where I'm still at to a degree). Recently, within the last few days, I've had to ask myself similar questions as I prompted above...why do I let people have control over my emotions? I shouldn't let them have control over my emotions..as my emotions are my own, not theirs, and not something I should let them influence. This thought process, I believe, gives me power more to be responsible for my own wants (Something, quite honestly, I've been bad at seeing in the past..similar to really identifying with my emotions).
As far as anti-social. I think there are all types of people. I don't have many friends, and don't really engage in dating/relationships. I'm okay with that..although I'm realizing a bit that some support structure is helpful for talking about y problems. With that, I don't believe I would ever want to become a hermit (I wanted to in the past) because of this..plus it's running away, and I hate running away from my problems.