Grossenschwamm wrote:You could have been misdiagnosed. Either that, or you used to fit diagnostic criteria, and as you've aged you no longer do.
The odd part about your previous "diagnosis" is that, as you've said, the psychologist said you have some traits of borderline asperger's syndrome. There's no such thing as borderline asperger's syndrome, and that you have "some" traits is equivalent to saying you have quirks. Everyone has some autistic traits, it doesn't mean everyone is autistic. I think your family is taking this way too far. You weren't even diagnosed the first time.
Nuclear Xmas wrote: I feel if I could do that I could silence my family, especially my mother. She doesn't really bring it up around me anymore but I know she still believes so and probably tells anyone who she thinks should know or knows me. That's something that I feel is very important to stop, I don't want her altering my interactions with people. And I don't want that to be the basis of how people interact with me, like I'm just, "that guy with aspergers"
Nuclear Xmas wrote: Since I've stopped seeing my psychologist and wouldn't know how to contact him it'd be difficult to get him to back me up or assure my mother I don't have this disability.
I feel if I could do that I could silence my family, especially my mother. She doesn't really bring it up around me anymore but I know she still believes so and probably tells anyone who she thinks should know or knows me. That's something that I feel is very important to stop, I don't want her altering my interactions with people. And I don't want that to be the basis of how people interact with me, like I'm just, "that guy with aspergers"
I may have missed this, but have you talked with her about this? A diagnosis of Aspergers doesn't mean you're a freak. I've only been recently diagnosed, and very little of my family/friends knows about it. I don't really care to tell people or anything. I got along just fine, this many years as just having my quirks (from my family perspective). While they perked their eyes a few times wondering where I went off to, it hasn't really been an issue.
This should be relatively easy to find out. Obviously, finding out from your mother is probably the easiest. If that's not possible, then trying to remember what hospitals you've been to helps. If you can trace things down, you can simply call the hospital and ask about inquiring about your medical record. At the university I go to, all our stuff is online..so I can log in and view my records that way.
Nuclear Xmas wrote:I've had numerous conversations with her. She usually doesn't bring it up or anything, but I can tell she's just playing along whenever I say I don't have it. Like, she could just bring up something aspergers related to something I'm doing, like for instance, last year I started eating strictly organic food, her response to this was, "Yeah, many parents with children who have autism often put them on organic diets because it helps", when I bluntly told her, "I don't have aspergers.", she just kind of brushed off my statement
Nuclear Xmas wrote:To be honest, at this point she just kind of goes along with what I have to say, but that doesn't stop her from thinking otherwise, and won't make her enlighten my family onto the fact of the matter. It would be nice if I could do that. Would it cost money, because that's something I don't really have at the moment.
eh? That's the first I heard of organic having much to do with Autism. I personally eat quite a bit of organic stuff (or at least heavily clean off my foods, and eat a lot of raw stuff) because I feel it's overall healthier..and just makes me feel better. I don't think it's an Autism thing...or if it is, that's the first I heard about it.
I think the thing you need to bring up to your parents is "why does it matter?" if you have AS or not. From what you've said, she's very convinced you have it and for some reason just wants to spread it around...almost like it's some twisted badge of honor or something. Maybe you could go about it a different way, and simply ask her not to mention AS to anyone, be that friends, or family, ever.
There's a thread about how AS apparently is seen as being the "In thing". Maybe this is an example of that...first time I've heard/seen it happen to someone if it is. Maybe point her to that, maybe she needs to think of your feelings over hers in this regard.
Kinda depends, actually. If you have health care, under your parents name, then you may be able to be seen for free or for very little. When I went in, it was the first time I've ever been to a psychiatrist before, and I haven't received a bill at all for what I went through. Maybe the official diagnosis will help...but maybe not either.
One thing that also may help change her mind is well...from a logical point of view, ask her why she cares one way or the other if you have AS. Secondly, research AS on your own. Take the Aspie-quiz (but be honest in taking it), empathy quiz (again be honest in it), and come up with a checklist of how you may or may not have it. This is essentially what I did for my diagnosis...I spent about 4-5 hours the night before preparing this way, although I had a heck of a lot of anxiety going into the meeting too.
Overall, from what I've read of what you said so far, it comes down to that she's very misinformed about AS in general. Regardless of if you have it or not, it appears that she's more interested in the status of it for some reason. I've read...way too much on AS before I ever was seen and it wasn't a badge of honor or anything for me to get diagnosed. In fact, it really didn't change anything for me. It may not for you either, if you are getting along fine regardless if you have it or not. Not everyone is so lucky. One person I know, who has AS, is in that situation. She's very, very confused about her situation and it causes stress for her...but I think that may come down to other factors that aren't worth discussing.
We used to, that's the only reason I was able to see him. When I turned 18 and my insurance expired my visits to him stopped. It was nice having my tuesday afternoons back and I felt I'd gotten all I could from him but I do still kind of miss him sometimes. I think her intentions are noble, and she's not really bad about it. All I want is to be able to properly convince her, as well as the rest of the family otherwise.
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