Nuclear Xmas wrote:I've had numerous conversations with her. She usually doesn't bring it up or anything, but I can tell she's just playing along whenever I say I don't have it. Like, she could just bring up something aspergers related to something I'm doing, like for instance, last year I started eating strictly organic food, her response to this was, "Yeah, many parents with children who have autism often put them on organic diets because it helps", when I bluntly told her, "I don't have aspergers.", she just kind of brushed off my statement
eh? That's the first I heard of organic having much to do with Autism. I personally eat quite a bit of organic stuff (or at least heavily clean off my foods, and eat a lot of raw stuff) because I feel it's overall healthier..and just makes me feel better. I don't think it's an Autism thing...or if it is, that's the first I heard about it.
I think the thing you need to bring up to your parents is "why does it matter?" if you have AS or not. From what you've said, she's very convinced you have it and for some reason just wants to spread it around...almost like it's some twisted badge of honor or something. Maybe you could go about it a different way, and simply ask her not to mention AS to anyone, be that friends, or family, ever.
There's a thread about how AS apparently is seen as being the "In thing". Maybe this is an example of that...first time I've heard/seen it happen to someone if it is. Maybe point her to that, maybe she needs to think of your feelings over hers in this regard.
Nuclear Xmas wrote:To be honest, at this point she just kind of goes along with what I have to say, but that doesn't stop her from thinking otherwise, and won't make her enlighten my family onto the fact of the matter. It would be nice if I could do that. Would it cost money, because that's something I don't really have at the moment.
Kinda depends, actually. If you have health care, under your parents name, then you may be able to be seen for free or for very little. When I went in, it was the first time I've ever been to a psychiatrist before, and I haven't received a bill at all for what I went through. Maybe the official diagnosis will help...but maybe not either.
One thing that also may help change her mind is well...from a logical point of view, ask her why she cares one way or the other if you have AS. Secondly, research AS on your own. Take the Aspie-quiz (but be honest in taking it), empathy quiz (again be honest in it), and come up with a checklist of how you may or may not have it. This is essentially what I did for my diagnosis...I spent about 4-5 hours the night before preparing this way, although I had a heck of a lot of anxiety going into the meeting too.
Overall, from what I've read of what you said so far, it comes down to that she's very misinformed about AS in general. Regardless of if you have it or not, it appears that she's more interested in the status of it for some reason. I've read...way too much on AS before I ever was seen and it wasn't a badge of honor or anything for me to get diagnosed. In fact, it really didn't change anything for me. It may not for you either, if you are getting along fine regardless if you have it or not. Not everyone is so lucky. One person I know, who has AS, is in that situation. She's very, very confused about her situation and it causes stress for her...but I think that may come down to other factors that aren't worth discussing.