JesusFreak wrote:Thank you for your replys. I have talked with my son and he is willing to talk to a psychologist. I have made 2 seperate apointments. I for him and 1 for me. I think I've been putting this off because I'm afraid of making it worse. My son already has low self esteem and often says things like, "what you think I'm stupid", "nobody likes me", etc. I didn't want to make that worse. But, now I see that he is struggling and I think he wants help. I'm hoping that this can give him hope. Any suggestions on how to be sensitive? Do's and Don'ts as a parent trying to help? I only have good intentions, but I know things don't turn out like we hope them to. I don't know how he is feeling or the struggles he is going through, so any advice or insight on getting him thru this initial appointment would be greatly appreciated.
mamad wrote:Gosh, I feel like we are all in the same boat. My son, also 15, is a quiet, shy, young man who doesn't like sports. Early years were obsessiveness with trains to the point where he acted like one, then moved on to a raptor dinosaur, and then Mario. He talked incessently when he would 2 and knew geometric shapes, numbers, letters and it grew from there. He laughed and smiled all time. Then around 3 1/2 to 4 he started to withdraw within himself. I could see it but I couldn't stop it. When he was upset he would wave his arms in the air. Or sometimes walk on his toes. Kids at school would tease him. His best friend had even teased him and held him down calling him "fly boy." It was difficult for Sam but he hit the kid right in the nose and got up and went to the office. I knew it was coming because Sam told me almost everything, especially about the kids at school. Never in my dreams did I think that I would have to say 'defend yourself if you are getting beaten up." From then he tried in school, even made honors in 5th grade. Sixth grade and seventh grade was on to a Magnet School. He became overly quiet. Couldn't stand the kids at school because they were loud and disrespectful to the teachers. The teasing continued along with him looking like Harry Poter didn't make it easy. New haircut was the next step. He didn't want to participate in sports though he could run like the wind. I would run with him sometimes. He was great. But he wouldn't do it for a school sport. The grades started to plummit. The isolation was beginning. Sometimes he would break down and say that he couldn't take it anymore. I took him to a pshychologist which became a diagnosis for ADD. I could understand as I am a member of that gang. He obsessed over video games and Pokemon and Mario Kart-never once playing a game that intailed blood and guts. He is now a freshman. He hardly has any friends. He is failing in school. Hard to believe that he never talks back or gives me a hard time about much. But now he says he's depressed and that life sucks. I took him to pshychiatrist and revealed that I think he has Aspergers. He hasn't done a thing except put him on meds for ADD and sees him once a month. His father left and remarried and had another boy last year. He doesn't spend much time with Sam anymore. Where do I go from here? Someone please help me.
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