Sorn wrote:I spoke about this topic with my mom recently, and she informed me that I must debate everything, and that when I am criticized I immediately lash back with retort.
She used the example "I could tell you its a hot day, and you would shoot back that it is not and that im wrong"
I then explained to her that im not retorting, but simply adding literal commentary to her statement about my position on the matter. The implication that I am ignoring her statement, or denying it is because my literal statement, when taken into context, might be interpreted as rejection. However, since the statement is intended literally, I would say that I did not mean to cause any rejection, just that my AS made me appear to do so.
I said that I would not reject, just say "Nah, its more like a nice warm 73 degree's." My literal statements are the death of me.
If someone criticizes me I typically go into interrogation mode to determine what is the specific reason for the criticism. I want to either deny it with proof, or admit the flaw and work on correcting it.
Haha, ditto! Ditto to all in one way or another, though. I still withdraw from people, though. One criticism means they don't want me around is how my logic tends to work. I also feel like I get criticised more than others, but then I probably do because I find it so difficult to conform to others' ideas of correct behaviour and conduct.
Its difficult at best.
I started asking all my close friends if im commonly inappropriate and they all denied that I am. Or rather, they said that I have oddball remarks but thats just me and they understand.
The problem lies within those who do NOT understand our persona's tendancies to be off mark. Without knowing who we are or that we are often joking or making literal statements (though, they are offended or interpret the statement as 'off', be it rude, egocentric, pretentious, etc) they presume that we are just douche bags
Thats why I've always isolated myself within new peer groups. Its not until i feel comfortable that people know me that I start to be myself. Add alcohol into the mix early and my personality comes out without filters and I have a *very high* probability of offending someones values
And no, I do not conform. I shape myself into whatever fits the bill. Sometimes its me, and sometimes its 'limited me' but its always me, not what others want me to be.