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by blindwanderer » Sat Jul 30, 2016 6:52 am
This keeps happening. My partner accuses me of being angry or frustrated or something like that (I don't know the right word). I've noticed it tends to happen when I answer a question. She asks a question, I answer it, and she tells me it's not a bad question and that I'm being frustrated with her, which I'm not. I feel like I've answered as best I could, and don't know why she feels that way. Apparently it's the way I say it. My first thought was that I talk to loudly, I think I do that when there's background noise. But I worked out it's not that. Then I thought I worked it out, I was speaking too fast. But then it happened when I'm sure I was speaking slowly. So no idea now. Anyway just wondering if this sort of thing happens to anyone else?
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by shock_the_monkey » Fri Jan 20, 2017 9:15 am
aspies tend to have very flat facial expressions. NTs can easily confuse this with anger or frustration. they're reading your body language, not listening to your words. changing what you say won't change how they perceive you're saying it.
something knocked me out' the trees
now i'm on my knees
... don't you know you're gonna shock the monkey
there is one thing you must be sure of
i can't take any more
... don't you know you're gonna shock the monkey
don't like it but i guess i'm learning
... shock the monkey to life
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by blindwanderer » Sat Jan 21, 2017 5:09 am
Ah, I see. I think talking fast has something to do with it, but maybe it's also to do with how I look when I'm speaking. I don't know what I look like when I'm speaking, or how I'm supposed to look. Thank you.
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