We are in our 60's. When I met my boyfriend about a year ago my only concern was his quietness. There were so many other great qualities I decided I was okay with it. Here is what I see. He doesn't react.
I can tell him a funny story and there is no response or a one word answer. He does not engage in a normal back and forth conversation unless it is his specific interest, ie sailing, tennis or engineering. Even then is more a lecture. He has no curiosity about people or things unless it is the above. He doesn't ask anything about myself. He can be kind, generous, and is great with flowers. Very set in his ways and stubborn. Very smart. No interest in the world or politics. I am good at reading people and I haven't a clue what goes on in his head. The first 5 months I think that he must have been making a huge effort, now he is who he is. I am feeling very alone. I am an engager. What do you think? Thank you.