Hello everyone,
I just wanted to ask: Is it possible to have Asperger's syndrome, but never have had any kind of meltdown or burst out?
I have been seriously considering that there is a high change that I have a mild form ofAsperger's. Reading the symptoms, taking quizzes, and contacting people on this forum that belief has been getting more serious.
At the moment, I'm making arrangements to have myself diagnosed. But I'm actually scared of the diagnose (what if I'm NOT an Aspie? that would be quite hard for me to handle, actually, as Asperger's was the answer to so many questions in my life, and so many oddities in my behaviour). And that's why, before I go, I want to be able to prepare myself mentally for either possibility of the diagnose, and I want to know the chances that I will get diagnosed with this or not.
But, there is one big thing that makes me think I may not have Asperger's:
I'm very calm. Extremely calm. Unnaturally calm, even. I never lash out in anger, or do anything impulsively, be it out of anger or happiness. I don't yell at people, or at things. I don't hit things. I don't do anything more than smiling if I get a happy news, no matter how surprising or important it is. I don't have any kind of explosive or implosive crysis (except when my girlfriend [the only person really close to me] yells at me - if she yells at me I usually just become completely silent, and avoid looking at her face/having her see my face, but if the situation requires it [eg: she's crying] I am able to face her, hug her, and everything to make her feel better, although with GREAT effort and will).
I don't remember having experienced what is described as a "meltdown". Situations that make me extremely nervous are quite rare, but the closes thing to a meltdown I remember is:
I work at a very relaxed place, where there isn't actually a defined chain of command. My group is just 6 workmates that decide everything together, with 1 that acts as a leader/boss just because he has the skills to do it.
When at work, I had to (orders from my boss) face a stranger and ask for a favour, even though they had already said that they would not make that favour again because it was against the rules, and I had previously stated that I wouldn't ask for it again. I said that I would do what was necessary to do it the right way, by the rules, withouth asking favours.
And after that I had to go and ask for that favour again.
That time (times, it actually happened 2 or 3 times more), after or before facing them I would go to a bathroom and lock myself in, and just wait for some minutes until I could calm myself and prepare myself to go out. Not cry, not scream, just a bit of hugging myself and be desperated on the inside.
And then the stress. When I knew I had to do it again, I would be very stressed for days before that moment came.
But that happened quite recently, and I don't remember that ever happening before, or anything similar.
I have too much control of my actions, I'm not impulsive at all. I can't be impulsive. Everything I do is decided beforehand. Even locking myself in the bathroom: I decided to go there because I was too nervous, and anxious, and other similar emotions. But I had the will to go to that bathroom (about 50 meters and a building away from where I was, I work at a very big place), and planned to stay there until I was calm. I just have too much control to be able to have a real "meltdown".
So, can it still be Asperger's? Are meltdowns very frequent in people with Asperger's, or are they just "reserved" for the most serious cases?
I would really appreciate your replies,
~Secret~