Do you want to get married? Why?

RoyA wrote:There is no goddamn way I'd give some cun7 the opportunity to drain me of resources and take off, sex isn't that valuable

RoyA,

what about you are poor and the woman works hard to support you financially?

what if you are sick(big disease or lost a limb), and the woman nurses you day and night?

then marriage ok?

I used to dream of marrying a poor but hard working... nice, mature guy

when I was young... lol

saw something like that in TV and was quite impressed... woman making more money.

HPDs are very suggestible.

so... I am not sure if what kind of man I'd be married to,
but

'Living alone' thing, wouldn't it be boring? for example, holidays? Thanksgiving? o.o
when everyone is with their 'family' ? psychopaths/narcs need people around them too.

I would be happy to have a husband who doesn't contact his family or friends.
though that may be really impossible almost.


thank you for your answers! It was interesting.

o.o

how was your parents? giving kind of people?? may I ask? did they sacrifice for you a lot?

RoyA wrote:more or less, but i don't necessarily trust them with everything, and at times certain motives come under suspicion, what's your point? that people who sacrifice for others are to be trusted? i sacrifice myself to others for later gain, and others do the exact same, you'd be naive to think that a majority of intentions are purely altruistic.

no I think parents influence would be strong on how people think
for example if parents were rather paranoid... their children might be too...

Roy I am 0 paranoid 0
it's subtle part. I am not so naive. it's rather...
even if I think that person is 'bad'
if it gives me pleasure to love/trust that person
I selfishly decide to just trust and try hard avoid to be fuc*ked up
if I am fuc*ed up.. I blame myself. it was my fault that I was stupid! not that person's fault

when some bullies on the road threatend me when I was younger I kept smiled and chit-chat
and they eventually freed me saying 'you are really a nice girl......' o.o

and now to think about it, my parent's were weird...
for example ppl usually hate/doubt politicians

but my mother had 100% trust in them.

#CASE1
'mom! that politician is corru...'

'DO NOT MISTRUST OTHERS! Politicians are SMARTER THAN YOU YYY and they WORK HARD, YOU ARE STUPID AND LAZY.'

'...'

#CASE2

'I can't eat this, this junk food is full of sh*t, it has all the transfat and worst artificial...'

'Do you think people who made it would have put something bad in it ? I ATE IT FOR WHOLE MY LIFE
AND I AM PERFECTLY FINE. JUST EAT, AND DO NOT DISTRUST PEOPLE. TRUST PEOPLE TRUST!!! MISTRUST IS A BAD HABIT'

'...'


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plus she was mean... but never selfish...

and she was not naive... never... I think she just said those out of spite to me...

RoyA wrote:your mom sounds like she grew up in the ministry of truth on airstrip one ffs
my mom's the complete opposite, doesn't trust a soul, you might have a good point there. though, she is manipulative as all ###$, so it's not just learned behaviors but more a method of adaptation if anything.

if she got that angry at you for saying things like that, she probably knew it all in the back of her head but was too overcome by some sort of ingrained script that made her bend to authority, questioning it would provoke her negatively it makes sense

well o.o
she was that kind of person simply. Anger is... just out of her hatred toward me... haha


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well ASPDs

don't think revealing weakness is desirable...

lol nah!