talltree wrote:I have a member of my extended family who I am quite sure is a sociopath. The reason why is (since childhood, he is 21 now);
- he is cruel to animals and abuses them
- he is cruel to people and enjoys upsetting / emotionally hurting others
- he lacks empathy and is cold
- he has revealed he is curious about torture / harming others
- his own mother and step mother have said he is cruel / sadistic (and they are both lovely women and were never abusive to him)
- he lies and is manipulative
I know this person fairly well, and we have the sort of dynamics that in the past he has told me a lot about himself / his problems. However last time we talked we had a falling out over something trivial which basically resulted in us not speaking.
What I want to know is how should I deal with him now? We live in different countries but I am going to be moving for a period of time to his country and I will probably bump into him now and then (hard to say how often as he has his own independent life now and he is pissed off with me anyway). I am concerned because even though I don't think he will commit a crime (and I hope he hasn't) against people, I feel I can't trust him or know what he is capable of.
So how do I behave around him? Should I hide the fact I'm 99 % sure he is a sociopath? Should I avoid him at all costs and try not to have anything to do with him? Should I be frank with him and tell him what I think if we have a conversation about the subject?
Thanks for advice
PhoenixTrue wrote:In my opinion there's no such thing as 'sociopathy' or 'psychopathy', only people with a grudge AND Jeffrey Dhamer.
Sunlight_hurts wrote:99% chances are, he's not a sociopath.
My advice, Arsenic.
kanin wrote:Avoid him. If you have to be around him, act normally.
talltree wrote:Why do you say that? is that a joke? And that's not the point, he is a sociopath now no matter the source.
talltree wrote:And no I don't want to 'help' him. I just want to know how to act, especially as I don't know what -acting normal- would be after having a falling out. But I guess avoiding him, as someone else here said, makes sense. So i'll probably do that.
Timmy wrote:You've listed 3 traits: sadistic behaviour, lack of empathy and manipulativeness. None of these traits are exclusive to ASPD, furthermore I bet you can find quite a few 'normal' people with the aforementioned traits.
Timmy wrote:You have 2(surely there are more but I'll list 2) options, you either avoid him(redundancy ftw) or get along with him. Contrary to the general notion of this forum, some sociopaths can be quite fun to interact with, given that you are smart enough not to get hurt.
If you decide to avoid him:
- act as if you do not notice him
- do not greet him or if you have to, do it unenthusiastically
- make up excuses not to be around him
If you decide to become friends:
- the first time you meet him, greet him enthusiastically(hug?), act as if you never had a falling out
- if he acts displeased to see you:
- mention your falling out
- tell him that it was entirely your fault
- ask for forgiveness
- never mention your suspicions of him being a sociopath
Are you a female?
Timmy wrote:P.s.: Obviously, avoiding him is much easier.