Hi All! I'm wondering if our story is familiar to any of you and if you have any advice for us?
We have been on a wild ride for the past six years with our adopted daughter. She was adopted at 4 days old. From the beginning she was very hard to please. She cried a lot. As she got older we referred to her as "strong-willed". She seemed to always pick the one thing in the room she couldn't do or touch to do or touch it. She has always been beautiful and attracts people to herself. She is very extroverted and always talking with strangers which can sometimes be embarrassing-especially now that she has started asking people personal questions like if they are married and if they have a credit card and if they are following her (when the are behind her).
She has been seeing a therapist for a year and a psychiatrist for six months. She is on Prozac for depression. The Prozac has taken her outbursts down a notch. She no longer rips the closet door of the wall and has a lot less crying spells. Sometimes she'd start to cry and when you ask her why she'd say something like "I miss my cousins." She does have two cousins, but she never met them. She has also stopped people in the store and told them that her sister is in the hospital, but she doesn't have a sister.
Her last visit to the psychiatrist he said that maybe she has bipolar. He told me to keep a journal and to call if things got worse. They have been worse, but I think just because I'm at my point of exasperation, especially since I just want a peaceful house and over the holidays it has been anything but peaceful. I called but he can't gt me in any earlier. Anyway, what I read about bipolar doesn't fit her. She doesn't seem to have extreme moods as much as she seems to be absent of any REAL emotions. There isn't anything that she likes, except she is obsessed with food. Every place we go she acts like she never gets fed and asks for food. If food enters a room she can no longer concentrate on anything else. She talks about it all the time as well.
We just saw her MD and the doc asked her to name five people who she loves. She named two classmates and herself. Our doc said she didn't think it was BP. She thinks maybe Aspergers or a personality disorder.
At the present time, she has been peeing herself when she is mad. Christmas Eve she peed because she didn't get another cookie. She got a letter from Santa saying that she couldn't get all of her presents because she wasn't being kind. She stood there with a huge smile on her face and didn't seem to care. After weeks of peeing only when mad, I put a pull up on her yesterday. She didn't seem to care. She put it on and came out and told her brother to "feel this".
Does anyone have experiences that are similar to this story?
She will recite exactly what is going to happen if she breaks the rules and then she does it. One morning last week when she peed, I put a not so pretty outfit on her and said that she had to wear this because I didn't want her to pee on her new clothes. She said with a smile, "You can wear pretty clothes because you don't pee on yourself. I can't because I peed."
She seems to pick everyone's "hot buttons". She doesn't do the same behaviors with me as she does with my husband, mom, friends, etc. She does the thing that we individually dislike the most, ie bothering my friend's dog, saying "you don't love me" to my husband, etc.
ANNNNYYYY helpful advice would be appreciated. I know that there is definitely something very wrong, but I don't know what else to do. Her therapist and her sticker charts isn't getting me anywhere.