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Domestic Violence

Postby Siegfried » Tue Jan 10, 2017 11:48 pm

Do you have any history, whether you were the victim or perpetrator, of physical violence in a relationship?
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Re: Domestic Violence

Postby MotherRussia » Tue Jan 10, 2017 11:54 pm

Blivandefar wrote:Do you have any history, whether you were the victim or perpetrator, of physical violence in a relationship?


Both.
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Re: Domestic Violence

Postby Siegfried » Tue Jan 10, 2017 11:55 pm

What did you do as the perpetrator? Was it severe?
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Re: Domestic Violence

Postby MotherRussia » Wed Jan 11, 2017 12:01 am

Punched someone's arm, threw things, smacked them, wrestled them to the ground, tried to punch their face, pushed them around, drove fast to scare them, etc.
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Re: Domestic Violence

Postby MasoCat » Wed Jan 11, 2017 12:06 am

I have history as victim, though not as perpetrator to the best of my knowledge.

My father was the stereotypical abusive alcoholic. He verbally abused me though never physically; albeit I did witness him on three occasions beating my mother. I have not seen him in around ten years.

I was in a relationship with another person for five years. At first the relationship was fairly "healthy" (there was a two year age gap which didn't bother either of us), but during the latter two years of the relationship it devolved into mental and sexual abuse and he repeatedly raped me until I eventually broke up with him due to anger and left. Though after the relationship ended, he insisted to our mutual friends I was the one abusing him. Though I do not believe I was doing anything untoward to him.
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Re: Domestic Violence

Postby Siegfried » Wed Jan 11, 2017 12:13 am

I have a reason for asking.

Got into a bit of a scrap with the Missus. She punched me. Straight in the nose. I pushed her with my forearm against a wall, and told her to never fuking do that again, all while pressing my bone against her throat, preventing her from breathing. I wasn't thinking of my superior strength.

When I let go, she dropped to the ground and started crying. I apologized.

Not the worst thing I've done, but certainly the worst I've felt after the fact.
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Re: Domestic Violence

Postby MotherRussia » Wed Jan 11, 2017 12:16 am

Blivandefar wrote:I have a reason for asking.

Got into a bit of a scrap with the Missus. She punched me. Straight in the nose. I pushed her with my forearm against a wall, and told her to never fuking do that again, all while pressing my bone against her throat, preventing her from breathing. I wasn't thinking of my superior strength.

When I let go, she dropped to the ground and started crying. I apologized.

Not the worst thing I've done, but certainly the worst I've felt after the fact.


She shouldn't have punched you. The rule usually is if you hit, expect to get hit back. The cops won't arrest the person who hit back, at least where I live...even if they are the man and obviously stronger.

Hopefully she learned her lesson and won't hit you again.

MasoCat wrote:I have history as victim, though not as perpetrator to the best of my knowledge.

My father was the stereotypical abusive alcoholic. He verbally abused me though never physically; albeit I did witness him on three occasions beating my mother. I have not seen him in around ten years.

I was in a relationship with another person for five years. At first the relationship was fairly "healthy" (there was a two year age gap which didn't bother either of us), but during the latter two years of the relationship it devolved into mental and sexual abuse and he repeatedly raped me until I eventually broke up with him due to anger and left. Though after the relationship ended, he insisted to our mutual friends I was the one abusing him. Though I do not believe I was doing anything untoward to him.


He sounds like a dick.
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Re: Domestic Violence

Postby jerboa » Wed Jan 11, 2017 12:20 am

That's part of why I'm scared of relationships. They become nasty before you know it.
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Re: Domestic Violence

Postby Deadpxxl010 » Wed Jan 11, 2017 12:21 am

I've been a perpetrator, but only once while drunk. I had a girlfriend who I threw around the room into several pieces of furniture, held against the wall by the throat, and supposedly raped. I say supposedly because while the entire night is very hazy and borderline blackout, I vaguely remember throwing and holding her against the wall, but have no memory of forcing myself upon her. Also, she only told me that part of the story several weeks later, when we were fighting and I was threatening to leave her.
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Re: Domestic Violence

Postby Siegfried » Wed Jan 11, 2017 12:23 am

MotherRussia wrote:She shouldn't have punched you. The rule usually is if you hit, expect to get hit back. The cops won't arrest the person who hit back, at least where I live...even if they are the man and obviously stronger.

Hopefully she learned her lesson and won't hit you again.


You don't think I have some responsibility as the one with the most physical strength? The punch felt like a fly. It was a bitch hit. I was just asserting my dominance after the fact and went a bit far.
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