toosober wrote:Reaper- whilst I understand your point of view, I feel avoiding conflict, for the sake of having some peace at home, is an alternative I wouldn't entertain. If I didn't yell at the girl for nearly hitting my car, invariably I would feel "violated" and would anticipate such behavior to continue, thus escalating the possibility of a damaged car.. Now it is known by the girl and dad that I will not tolerate this behavior and that I am willing to go that extra mile to have my anger known.
The way I see it, you're underestimating the situation. You're assuming that if you didn't yell at the girl she wouldn't comply, but you cannot know that for certain.
Children don't often think about the consequences of their actions. The girl probably wasn't even thinking that the rocks might hit someone's car before your situation arose. So, you could have just easily taken a calmer approach and she may very well have listened.
How you reacted lends a lot to your mindset and how I suspect you were raised as a child.
The way you dealt with her father was also very reactive and defensive, as though you were perceiving a threat where none existed. The father was not threatening you. He may have been angry, but that doesn't mean he's a violent man. Most parents would be angry over someone yelling at their kid. He was just concerned for his daughter. He was not out to attack you.
You believe that doing what you did intimidated them and will make them back off, but who is to say that's the case. What if all you did was escalate a situation that could have been dealt with in a calmer, more rational manner.