Hey guys. I don't have ASPD, but my new boyfriend (known each other for maybe a month) - if we want to call him that - is without a doubt psychopathic. (It's worth noting that I'm manipulative, too, though not nearly as much as him. I took the Levenson Self-Report and came up with primary: 70th percentile and secondary: 86th and then 79th percentile, so I suppose I could be more umm idk what the word is...than I am. I have a few questions for you guys:
1. How do you react to a person challenging your manipulation tactics? Because when he jokes that I'm "just a slut/whore," that he should "beat/slap the $#%^ out of me," I just flip it around on him. I say that he's the whore (I mean he's slept w like 6x the number of ppl I have), or I tell him that if he tried to beat the crap out of me I would win or he would get punished (which we both know is a joke). He doesn't seem to get upset by this banter, but I'm not sure if that's only because we're still in the "idealization phase" or w/e of our relationship. Would this all piss you off?
2. Cheating... How have you guys reacted in the past to being cheated on? My (married) S.O. says I'm "cheating" on him, though we aren't exclusive. He tries to manipulate me out of seeing this other new guy, though I'm not going to stop seeing him. How have you guys felt in similar situations? It's SO tedious dealing with his monologues surrounding this topic.
3. Sex - Do you guys have any pointers about sustaining his excitement in the bedroom (or public place, etc.)? Our sex life hasn't neeearly started to die down yet (it's just getting warmed up), but we've seemingly suddenly started to move faster into more kinky things, and I don't want us to move so fast through them that there's suddenly nowhere further for us to go, causing it to become boring for him. I get worried that he'll get bored with me and then move on; however, I am objectively a lot more attractive than him, and I'm less than half his age (and TMI let him use umm...any hole), so I figure(/hope) he'll stick around for a while. Still, I don't want him to be having redundant sex because who wants that?
You guys' insight it honestly really appreciated! Thanks!