Please help :)

crystal_richardson_ wrote:So a sociopath in a relationship with a woman that is not pretentious, sex will lead to connection for her.

Watching an HPD smile and reach out her arms as to invite you back into bed after sex when you just want to get a drink is adorable

mindfunkmmMM wrote:

Dark Soul wrote:

graveflower wrote:I only really feel comfortable with sociopaths to be honest. Something makes me just wanna
hug them.

That's why women like you are such easy prey.

She seems pretty good at coping and picking herself up though i bet you she would be a fighter and therefore challenge and gain the sociopaths respect

lol, People are just objects that are either useful or useless. You can't respect something you don't actually value beyond it's use to you.

Do you think a sociopath will keep her around once she is of no more use...

That is true.. respect can be hard in relationships.

But value is not always diminishing with time, sometimes the opposite

mindfunkmmMM wrote:But value is not always diminishing with time, sometimes the opposite

It's true. I've been in a relationship with a sociopath for maybe 4 years now and it's gotten to the point where I feel comfortable being myself (whatever that means) around her and only her, almost to the extent that you could say I'm dependent on her. Dependency being effectively what appreciation is when you take the emotions away and the subsequent respect that accompanies it. I need her but I don't respect her; She's my submissive -- there's no power she holds except that which I give her. She's absolutely valuable to me, though.

AsPD can respect others, without having to feel emotional attachments or getting anything out of them.
But respect is not equal to a romantic relationship. Or any kind of relationship.

The-Triple-Threat wrote:there's no power she holds except that which I give her.

Do you have her tied up in your basement or something?

Dark Soul wrote:

The-Triple-Threat wrote:there's no power she holds except that which I give her.

Do you have her tied up in your basement or something?

AH, i see why value diminishes over time for DS..

mindfunkmmMM wrote:Do you find sociopaths? Or do they find you?

Both. Usually the attraction is instantaneous. My mother was a sociopath, so I think I've just been groomed for them from birth. My old therapist said sociopaths are attracted to me because I have an emotional disconnect that is comforting to them. (Explains why some are so goddam clingy with me). I also have similar traits, and am used to being around them. Nothing really surprises me, they can be themselves. Not having full blown ASPD means I can still be played, but I have little patience these days for bull$hit.

Dark Soul wrote:

graveflower wrote:I only really feel comfortable with sociopaths to be honest. Something makes me just wanna
hug them.

That's why women like you are such easy prey.

I wouldn't call myself prey, but maybe a little masochistic. (BPD). People are comfortable recreating the environment they grew up in. I like sociopaths because I'm used to them, and I have more in common with them than nons.

graveflower wrote:Nothing really surprises me, they can be themselves.

I don't think i could be myself around anybody.

When i am, people leave, if i haven't first.

But when i dated a BPD, i think i could. i felt like she knew me better than my family. She would argue with me for hours and always have a good justification. I used to tell her she was the girl version of me, and she agreed.

That relationship is ruined though. She has a restraining order against me, so